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The
 Success
Principles
  Your 30-Day Journey
 From Where You Are to
 Where You Want to Be




 Jack Canfield
 and
       Janet Switzer
Success Is a Journey!
   What Do People Say Who Have Traveled With Us?…


    Jack Canfield doesn’t just give you hype. His             Our group truly enjoyed your presentation. I
down-to-earth style made it easy for our associates       understand most of our folks gave you a #1, our
to relate and follow through. We have seen a              highest rating, on the evaluation sheets. You did a
tremendous increase in our associates’ commissions,       super job.
as well as their attitude and self-esteem.                         —James J. Westervelt, Vice President
            —John Assaraf, RE/MAX of Indiana                                                   ITT Hartford
     You would have been thrilled to attend our               You lead participants on a journey of self-
recognition banquet Saturday night. Five of the           discovery that is fascinating and fun while being solidly
[salespeople] inducted into the President’s Circle, our   founded on research and experience. Your handouts
top managers and consultants, recalled your               are eminently useful.
presentation last year and how it gave them the vision     —M.A. Armour, Director of Meeting Services
and strategies to achieve their success.                                     International Credit Association
                         —John Zucker, VP Mktg                 Your powerful presentation influenced even the
              DONCASTER, A Tanner Company                 most staunch, hard core “nay sayers.” You have a
     At all levels, there is new confidence and           great ability to teach and I was most impressed with
commitment. District and Branch managers and their        your style. You had a tremendous influence on our
staffs are taking risks, making decisions, pushing        employees, and that type of impact is worth paying
through fears, asking for what they need, and are         for.
working better as a team.                                                   —P.S. Downs, Minnesota Power
      —Elliott Brown, Regional Vice President,                The response was unanimous: You were
                                          Citicorp        completely on target and had obviously done your
     We couldn’t have reacted more positively to your     homework and been responsive to what we needed
message. Our group has been through experiences that      you to focus on at our convention. The topics...very
left us feeling splintered and war-weary. For the first   effectively supported and reinforced the rest of the
time in a long time, people began expressing hope again   agenda. Your material was perfect...One Director
that we can accomplish even our loftiest goals.           of Corporate Stores said, “Jack should be a given at
  — Jill Miller, Corporate Marketing Director             every convention.” That says it all!
               Ortho Pharmaceutical Corporation                           —Marla Rosner, Vice President,
                  A Johnson & Johnson Company                                                  SUPERCUTS
     The Ten Steps to Success are proving to be very            I’m making major changes in all areas of my life
valuable tools for our staff. Thank you for generating    as a direct result of the skills I learned. The safe
such excitement, improving our associates’ feelings       environment you created allowed me to stretch in ways
of self-worth and for presenting so many lessons in a     I never would have thought possible. My business
very short period of time.                                skills and interactions are enhanced... and my personal
             —D.A. Garrett, Human Resources               life is opening widely.
           General Electric Capital Corporation             —Linda Claire, Director, International Admin
                                                                                      Neutrogena Corporation
    Without exception, the feedback could not have
been more positive. People are speaking about the              I have been able to awaken and utilize my talents
“lasting impact” you had on them...your “sincerity        like never before. I have not only helped people change
and enthusiasm,” and how these qualities made the         their lives, but I have changed my own as well. Each
subject matter come to life and have a realism and        new week brings exciting opportunities. Thank you
relevance to their everyday lives.                        for all your guidance, encouragement and friendship.
 —Patrick O’Sullivan, Director, Sales Training                           —Todd McNally, Monogram Bank
                             Westec Security, Inc.
For me, the training provided an opportunity to         the training powerful [and] goal-oriented...with renewed
look at how I’ve been working in my organization            respect for themselves and their co-workers. STAR
and to consider options for changing my style, intent       gave us a dynamic message and the tools to continue
and behavior. My goal is to take the skills and integrate   applying the concepts long after the program’s end.
them into my presentations.                                  —Diana Clark, District Sales Manager, AT&T
   —Judith Schuster, Training & Development                     A shot of Jack Canfield is just what we need
                         SmithKline Laboratories            occasionally to remind us how truly wonderful it is to
     “Fantastic” and “Ability to communicate with           be human beings. My personal and professional life
warmth and understanding” were just some of the             is enriched because of your tapes. They’re
comments that were given after your program. I will         magnificent!
highly recommend your program to anyone...it was               —Didge Pearson, Senior Mgr, Membership
so relevant and offered participants outstanding take-                Assn for Information & Image Mgmt
home value.                                                     I have found the tapes to be very effective in
            —Lola Green, Seminar Chairperson                helping to slowly and solidly change my life. Not in
                  Young Presidents Organization             the slapdash overnight explosion other self-
     Members were riveted to your instructions. They        empowerment experts promise, but in a more
were intrigued by your insightfulness in working with       consistent and effective way that I feel growing inside
couples...They were moved to tears and to standing          me everyday.
ovations. You were humble, vulnerable, human,                                       —Marie Jones, California
humorous, witty, playful, outrageous, flexible and               Janet Switzer is one of the best minds on the planet
totally present.                                            with a unique talent for producing profits I can bank.
                     —Raymond Aaron, Director               She’s easily made me hundreds of thousands of
                             The Millionaire Club           dollars with her simple strategies. I know she does
     My growth in relationships has been phenomenal.        the same for companies in all sorts of industries. She
I am able to take action to make things happen in my        can do the same or more for you.
life. I feel so blessed to have been able to experience                                   —Mark Victor Hansen
Self-Esteem 101 and realize the benefits daily. My                       co-author of the New York Times #1
self-imposed barriers go down with much less effort           bestselling book series Chicken Soup for the
now.                                                                                                            Soul
                                 —TomAbbott,St.Louis          Janet Switzer is the genius of choice for lots of
                                                            very smart companies across the country. She’ll find
    One of the best programs we have ever seen at
                                                            a way to bring in the money when everyone else has
Honda. This is a wonderful program for people,
                                                            failed…she understands budgets, risks, people and
managers, trainers... anyone. It brings together many
                                                            the bottom line. If you can get her to put you on her
disciplines, technologies and approaches that helped
                                                            schedule, consider yourself lucky…but don’t call her
reinforce energy.
                                                            unless you’re serious about making money.
                            —Dominic Cirincione
                                                                                                —Macrae Ross
              Manager, Training & Development
                                                                       independent growth and management
                   American Honda Corporation
                                                                                                       strategist
    [Your program] may well have been one major
                                                                I once saw Janet produce a highly specific and
factor in an attitude upswing within my reporting
                                                            fully articulated strategy within eight minutes of
people. Nine out of ten have participated in the
                                                            meeting a business owner and hearing about his
program in the past eighteen months.
                                                            business. In just 40 minutes at my office, Janet
                     —Abbot Knowles, Manager
                                                            provided me with an entire and fully integrated Jack
                         New England Telephone
                                                            Canfield doesn’t just give you hype. His down-to-
     I was struggling to find a vehicle that would help     earth style made it easy for our associates to relate
my people focus on what we really wanted and give us        and follow through. We have seen a tremendous
the tools to achieve those goals. People emerged from       increase in our associates’ commissions, as well as
                                                            their attitude and self-esteem.
                                                                        —John Assaraf, RE/MAX of Indianan
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Introduction



      One of the greatest myths in this world isthat   our clients, our spouse, the weather, the economy,
we’re entitled to live a great life.That somehow,      our astrological chart, our lack of good golf clubs—
somewhere—someone—is required to fill our lives        anyone or anything we can pin the blame on. We
with continual happiness, enticing career options,     never want to look at where the real problem is—
empowering family time and blissful personal rela-     ourself.
tionships simply because we exist on this planet. We
                                                             There is a wonderful story that is told about a
expect these things—and when they don’t show up,
                                                       man who is out walking one night and comes upon a
for many of us at least, it’s someone else’s fault.
                                                       man down on his knees looking for something under
      But perhaps the greatest truth in this world—    a street lamp. The passerby inquires as to what the
and the one lesson we hope this program will help      other man is looking for. He answers that he is look-
you learn over and over again—is that there’s only     ing for his lost key. The man offers to help and gets
one person responsible for the life you enjoy here.    down on his knees and searches for the key. After
                                                       an hour of fruitless searching, he says to the man,
             That person is YOU.
                                                       “We’ve looked everywhere for it and we have not
      If you want to be successful, you have to take   found it. Are you sure that you lost it here?” The
100% responsibility for everything you experience      other man replies, “No, I lost it in my house, but
in your life. From the level of your achievements to   there is more light out here under the a streetlamp.”
the results you produce, to the quality of your rela-
                                                              How many times do you look for the answers
tionships to the state of your health and physical fit-
                                                        to your problems outside yourself, when the answer
ness—even responsibility for your feelings, your in-
                                                        lies within? It is you who creates the quality of the
come, your debts...everything!
                                                        life you lead and the results you produce. No one
                 This is not easy.                      else!
      In fact, most of us have been conditioned to         Choose Now to Make a Change
blame something outside of ourselves for the parts
                                                           Our final admonition to you as you start down
of our life we don’t like. We blame our parents, our
                                                     your path to future success, is that you have control
bosses, our teachers, our friends, our co-workers,
                                                     over just three things in your life—the thoughts you
think, the images you visualize and the actions you producing the “more” that you are seeking in life,
take. How you make the most of them determines the “more” would have already shown up. If you
the outcomes you experience in life.                want something different, you’re going to have to
                                                    do something different!
      If you don’t like what you are producing and
experiencing, choose now to change your responses.        While this audio program will give you the strat-
Change your negative thoughts to positive ones. egies and principles that are proven to help you ac-
Change what you daydream about. If you don’t like quire the success-filled life you want, ultimately, you
the way people treat you, say something about it or are the one who will execute these strategies and
spend your time with different people.              incorporate these principles into your everyday life
       If you keep doing what you’ve always done,       The day you begin to do that is the day your
you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten. In life will begin to change for the better!
fact, if what you are currently doing was capable of
1
                Take 100% Responsibility for
                Your Life With E+R=O

      Bob Resnick, one of Jack’s                            Successful people know that how they re-
earliestmentors,teaches a simple, yet powerful for-  spond can mean the difference between advance-
mula we believe should be the primary rule guiding ment and riches — or regret about what could have
your successful life:                                been. In fact, one of the greatest differences be-
                                                     tween successful people and those who would merely
                                                     like to be, is how they respond to the opportunities
                       E+R=O
                                                     in their life.
       Event + Response = Outcome
                                                            How often have you reacted with fear or “I
                                                     can’t” when opportunity knocks? Have you walked
      Stated succinctly, every outcome we experi- away from a life-changing opportunity? Or worse,
ence in life is a direct result of how we respond to did you fail to recognize and respond to opportunity
an individual event that occurs.                     that actually appeared as a crisis or other disaster?
     Sometimes that event is an unexpected op-                          Take a look:
portunity that shows up. Other times, it’s a crisis
we didn’t see coming. But in any case, it’s just the Event:           Your co-workers continually miss
way things are—the existential reality of our life.                   deadlines, forcing you to work late
                                                                      to bring projects in on time.
     So how can we create the best possible out-
come in relation to an event we have no control Response:             You grumble to your wife, but say
over? By taking responsibility and changing the                       nothing to you co-workers or boss.
way we respond to that event. Take a look at these
two examples:                                      Outcome:           You end up working late most nights
                                                                      straining your marriage and family
                                                                      relationship.
Event:           You are given a $1,000 bonus.
Response:        You spend it on a weekend trip.
                                                         Event:       Your co-workers continually miss
Outcome:         You are broke.                                       eadlines, forcing you to work late
                                                                      to bring projects in on time.

Event:           You are given a $1,000 bonus.           Response:    You investigate ways to streamline
                                                                      the process, then quietly present
Response         You invest it in your mutual fund.                   your better plan to the boss.
Outcome:         You have an increased net worth.        Outcome:     Your boss creates a special job title
      Can you see how your response — and your re-                    for you, sight on projects, which leads
sponse alone — can significantly improve your life, or                to increased responsibility, a year-
alternatively, keep you exactly where you are today?                  end bonus and an increase in salary.
The truth is...when confronted with a negative     what they’re really saying is, “I know things could
event, successful people look for ways to transform      be better. I have a point of reference of something
that negative into an opportunity for achievement and    better which I prefer. I know the difference be-
greater success.                                         tween that ideal and the situation I’m in now. But
                                                         I’m not willing to risk creating that other, more de-
      They simply respond differently.
                                                         sirable scenario.”
            Do You Blame Events
                                                                      It’s simply easier and
             for Your Outcomes?
                                                                     less risky to complain.
       Of course, responding differently means you
                                                               And it’s certainly easier than responding the
must give up blaming the event itself. This is very
                                                        way successful people do. If successful people don’t
difficult. Our conditioning has trained us that when
                                                        like the situation they find themselves in, they either:
something doesn’t work, we blame what happened
rather than our reaction to it: the traffic that made             (a)     work to make it better, or…
you late for an important meeting, the bounced check
                                                                  (b)     they leave and go somewhere else.
that made your husband mad, your parents who still
treat you like you’re 12, the company take-over that           The truth is...for as fast as our society moves
eliminated your job.                                    today, things are likely to change anyway. Left alone,
                                                        bad situations often get worse. But you can do
       Does this sound familiar?
                                                        something to change them — if you’re willing to take
       “If only my boss would give me enough time 100% responsibility for your life. It’s up to you to
to do the job...If only my husband understood what do something different.
I’m trying to do with the kids...If only the kids would
clean up their rooms...If only we had a better                Do You Ignore the Yellow Alerts?
economy...If only they would stop such-and-such...I
would feel better.”                                            Most people are surprised to hear that they’re
                                                        usually notified in advance about the “negative”
       Stop blaming and complaining!                    events that occur in their lives. Like the “yellow
       Understand that the E’s (the events) aren’t re- alerts” in the old Star Trek television series, you re-
sponsible for the O’s (the outcomes) you experi- ceive advance warnings — in the form of tell-tale
ence in life.                                           signs, comments from others, gut instinct, your intu-
                                                        ition — that warn you of impending doom and give
                                                        you time to prevent disaster from happening.
      Complaining Simply Means You
      Know There’s Something Better                            You have time to change your response (R) in
                                                        the E+R=O equation.
       Complaining about the Events won’t help you
change your outcomes, either.                                  You can act, as successful people do — fac-
                                                        ing facts squarely, doing the uncomfortable and tak-
       Isn’t it interesting that many people who stay
                                                        ing steps to change the outcome. Successful people
in bad situations never complain. Why? They sim-
                                                        don’t wait for disaster to occur, and then blame
ply don’t know any better. They don’t know that
                                                        something or someone else for their problems. They
things could be better.
                                                        respond in time. They prevent things from going too
       But complainers know exactly what’s avail- far.
able to them.
                                                                   Life Becomes Much Easier
       In fact, when you hear someone complain,
                                                               Once you begin responding decisively to sig-
nals and events as they occur, life becomes much for outcomes that are both good and bad.
easier. The feelings of hopelessness and lack of
                                                                 When you confront a guy in a bar who is twice
control go away. You start seeing two kinds of im-
                                                          your size and say to him, “You’re ugly!” — then find
proved outcomes — both internal and external.
                                                          yourself in the hospital with a broken jaw — it’s
      Old internal dialogs like: “I feel like a victim. I easy to see you created that outcome.
feel used. Only bad things happen to me,” are trans-
                                                                 But what about those outcomes that are more
formed into, “I feel better. I’m in control. I can
                                                          difficult to see?
make things happen.”
                                                                 Let’s say you work late every night. You come
      External outcomes like, “Nobody comes to our
                                                          home tired and burned out. You eat dinner in a stu-
store. We missed our quarterly goals. People are
                                                          por, then sit down to watch television. You are too
complaining the new product doesn’t work,” be-
                                                          tired and stressed out to do anything else — like go
come outcomes like: “I have more money in the
                                                          for a walk or play with the kids. This goes on for
bank. I lead the division in sales. Our product is
                                                          years. Your wife asks you to talk to her. “Later,”
flying off the shelves.”
                                                          you say. Three years from now you come home to
      Eventually, as you respond regularly to these an empty house and a find note that she’s left you
yellow alerts, you begin to see events without need- and taken the kids.
ing these advance warnings. You begin to anticipate
                                                                 You created that one, too!
problems.
                                                                 Of course, in this kind of situation, it’s easy to
      And, you mature in your thinking.
                                                          gloss over the obvious with self-righteous arguments
      Finally, you can accept the fact that you are like, “I was working hard to make a better life for
the one who has created the way things are. You my family. I’m entitled to watch a ball game every
took the actions, you thought the thoughts, you cre- now and then. I was a good provider, wasn’t I?”
ated the feelings and you made the choices that got
                                                                 But perhaps the worst outcomes are those we
you to where you are now.
                                                          simply allow to happen, whether through inaction,
      You are the one who ate the food. You are the neglect or unspoken agreement.
one who stayed in that job that you hate. You are
                                                                 You didn’t sign the petition when it came in the
the one who married him. You are the one who
                                                          mail, and now there’s a microwave tower in your
wanted kids. You are the one who abandoned your
                                                          neighborhood. You didn’t demand counseling the
dream. You are the one who ignored your intuition.
                                                          first time he hit you, and now the abuse has gotten
You are the one who decided to go it alone. You
                                                          worse. You didn’t follow through on your threat to
are the one who decided you were damaged goods.
                                                          take away privileges, and now the kids’ rooms look
You are the one who trusted him.
                                                          like a war zone. You didn’t go back to school, and
      And, come to think of it, you’re the one who now you are being passed over for a promotion.
said yes to the dogs, too.                                You didn’t demand an audit, and now your partner
                                                          has disappeared with the money. You didn’t leave
      It was you!
                                                          when you saw the drugs, and now you are in jail.
             You Either Create It or
                                                                 When you allow outcomes like these to hap-
                Allow It to Happen
                                                          pen, be aware that you are not a victim. In fact, you
      You alone have the power to make something can safely take credit for standing passively by and
happen in your life, whether you actively create it or letting it happen. You didn’t say anything, make a
passively allow it to happen or continue. This goes demand, say no, or leave.
Like the yellow alerts we talked about before, Foreman once said,
there were signs that you chose to ignore.
                                                                 Winners are those people who make a habit
      You didn’t acknowledge the alert or act upon of doing the things losers are uncomfortable do-
it because that would have required you to do some- ing.
thing uncomfortable. Whether it’s confronting your
                                                                 Don’t fail to respond to a yellow alert because
spouse or speaking up in a staff meeting or leaving
                                                          it’s easier, more convenient, less uncomfortable, less
the premises, you are the only one who can respond
                                                          confrontational, keeps the peace, doesn’t require
to a yellow alert while there is still time to change it,
                                                          taking risks, or confirms your low self-image. Take
reverse it or save it.
                                                          action! Don’t allow negative outcomes to be your
      My good friend, former Congressman Ed fate.




   The Early Years: Age _______ to Age _______
   SuccessesIAchieved:                                     SuccessLessonsILearned(useadditionalsheetsifnecessary):

   1.




   2.




   3.
How Would You Respond Differently?
   The following scenarios include inappropriate responses and undesirable outcomes. How would you
   respond differently in order to change the outcome?
           Poor Response / Undesirable Outcome                               Your Response / More Desirable Outcome

Event:        Your boss “dumps” last-minute projects on you.        Event:             Your boss “dumps” last-minute projects on
                                                                                       you.
Response:     You stay late to finish them 2-3 nights a week.
                                                                    Your Response:     You discuss the problem with your boss,
Outcome:      Your family life suffers and your wife is furious.                       offer solutions and now ask early in the day
                                                                                       about any deadlines.

                                                                    Better Outcome: You feel more in control in the workplace,
                                                                                    get home on time and your family relation-
                                                                                    ships improve. Your teenager’s rage prob-
                                                                                    lem diminishes and he’s doing better in
                                                                                    school. You have time to share in household
                                                                                    duties now so your wife is less resentful and
                                                                                    more loving and supportive.

Event:        The house remodeler says permits aren’t needed.
                                                                    Event:             The house remodeler says permits aren’t needed.
Response:     You believe him even though you’re not sure.
                                                                    Your Response:
Outcome:      The electrical wiring was poorly done, not
              inspectedand now you’re paying even more              Better Outcome:
              money to have it re-done because the lights don’t
              work.

Event:        You now get 500 cable channels with DSS.
                                                                    Event:             You now get 500 cable channels with DSS.
Response:     You spend your entire evening channel-surfing.
                                                                    Your Response:
Outcome:      You mindlessly eat snacks after dinner and bal-
              loon to 230 lbs. Following your lead, the kids        Better Outcome:
              watch, too, instead of doing their homework. You
              end up yelling at them and their schoolwork suf-
              fers for lack of concentration and help from you.

Event:        You lose your job and now the creditors are call-
              ing.                                                  Event:             You lose your job and now the creditors are
Response:     You ignore the calls and letters and don’t                               calling.
              investigateoptions for reducing your payment or
              negotiating better terms.                             Your Response:

Outcome:      Your credit rating is ruined, you have 4 judgments    Better Outcome:
              against you and now that you just got a new job,
              they’re garnishing your wages and causing you
              embarrassment with your new boss.

Event:        A friend approaches you with a business idea.
Response:     Even though the business sounds wonderful, you        Event:             A friend approaches you with a business
              let your husband tell you it’s too good to be true,                      idea.
              so you don’t even investigate. You tell your friend
              no.                                                   Your Response:
Outcome:      Your friend’s idea was sound, the business took
              off and now she’s quitting her lackluster job be-     Better Outcome:
              cause she’s making $9,000 a month. You’re still
              stuck in a job you hate, so you’re jealous and
              harbor resentment about your friend’s success.
2           Success Is a Learned Behavior
     One of our favorite stories is about a mess like this, eventually you have to clean it up.
afamousresearch scientist who had made several So, how would you like to do that? We could use a
veryimportant medical breakthroughs.           towel, sponge or mop. Which do you prefer?”
      He was being interviewed by a newspaper                   After they were finished cleaning up the milk,
reporter who asked him why he thought he was able         she said, “What we have here is a failed experiment
to succeed so much more than the average person,          in how to carry a big bottle of milk with two tiny
to be so much more creative than the average per-         hands. Let’s go out in the backyard, fill the bottle
son? In other words, what set him so far apart from       with water and see if you can discover a way to
others?                                                   carry it without dropping it.” And they did.
      He responded that, in his opinion, it all came            What a wonderful lesson!
from a lesson his mother taught him when he was
                                                                The scientist then remarked it was at that mo-
two years old. He’d been trying to take a bottle of
                                                          ment he knew he didn’t have to be afraid to make
milk out of the refrigerator, when he lost his grip and
                                                          mistakes. Instead, he learned that mistakes were
spilled the entire contents on the kitchen floor. His
                                                          just opportunities for learning something new —
mother, instead of scolding him, said, “What a won-
                                                          which after all, is what scientific experiments are all
derful mess you’ve made! I’ve rarely seen such a
                                                          about.
huge puddle of milk. Well, the damage is already
done. Would you like to get down and play in the        That bottle of spilled milk led to a lifetime of
milk before we clean it up?”                      learning experiences — experiences that were the
                                                  building blocks of a lifetime of world-renowned suc-
    Indeed, he did. And, after a few minutes, his
                                                  cesses and medical breakthroughs!
mother continued, “You know, whenever you make



Taking Inventory of Your Life Successes: What Milk Have You Spilled?

      What did you learn each time you achieved             try new things, when we move outside our
something new? How did you have to “stretch” in comfort zone, and when we make new contacts that
your ability? In other words, what skills did you ac- can help us in our journey.
quire, what techniques did you learn, and what rela-
                                                            The more you acknowledge that you are suc-
tionships did you form that helped you achieve sig-
                                                      cessful (and the more you acknowledge what you
nificant successes in your life?
                                                      already know), the better prepared you’ll be to ben-
      We’ll be inventorying your life’s successes in efit from the success training you’ll experience in this
just a moment, but as you do, remember that suc- workbook. Let’s start working on your success
cess is a learned behavior. We succeed when we        now!
To start the process of taking inventory: Di- to 15 years, 16 to 30 years and 31 to 45 years.
vide your life into three parts — for example, if you Then list three successes for each time frame — and
are 45 years old today, your three parts would be 0 list what you learned as you achieved that success.



 TheEarlyYears:Age_______toAge_______
 SuccessesIAchieved                                SuccessLessonsILearned (useadditionalsheetsifnecessary)




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 The Middle Years: Age _______ to Age _______
 SuccessesIAchieved                                  SuccessLessonsILearned(useadditionalsheetsifnecessary)

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 5.
The Most Recent Years: Age _______ to Age _______
SuccessesIAchieved                       SuccessLessonsILearned(useadditionalsheetsifnecessary)

1.




2.




3.




4.




5.
Now let’s take a look at the next five years...your                        immediately. In future days, we’ll be building on these
immediate future which we’ll be working on over the next                      thoughts with step-by-step strategies for developing and
30 days. What do you want to accomplish? What would                           achieving these specific goals!
you like to achieve? Quickly jot down what comes to mind


  The Next Five Years
  Successes I Will Achieve                                                    What Knowledge, Skills, Habits, Self-Disciplines, Relationships and
  Resources                                                                    Will I Need to Develop to Achieve These Successes (use additional sheets
  if necessary)


  1. ______________________________________________________________________   _______________________________________________________________________

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  2. ______________________________________________________________________   _______________________________________________________________________

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  3. ______________________________________________________________________   _______________________________________________________________________

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  4. ______________________________________________________________________   _______________________________________________________________________

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  5. ______________________________________________________________________   _______________________________________________________________________

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  6. ______________________________________________________________________   _______________________________________________________________________

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  7. ______________________________________________________________________   _______________________________________________________________________

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  8. ______________________________________________________________________   _______________________________________________________________________

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  10. _____________________________________________________________________   _______________________________________________________________________

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3             Discover Your Unique Purpose: What
               Were You Put on This Earth To Do?
       Janet and I discovered long ago what we were             Surprisingly, some of the greatest names in his-
put on this earth to do. We determined our purpose        tory have had some of the simplest personal mission
in life, our "right livelihood." We discovered how to     statements. Titans of industry, leaders of major world
inject passion and determination into every activity      governments, entertainment giants — have all had a
we undertake. And we learned how purpose can              definitive life purpose that drives their daily actions,
bring an aspect of fun and fulfillment to virtually ev-   helping them create great successes and positively
erything we do.                                           impact generations of people.
       Now we'd like to help uncover the same se-                  Take Thomas Edison, for example: His stated
cret for you.                                               mission was to create inventions that people
                                                            needed, that people would pay for and that would
       You see, without a purpose in life, it's easy to
                                                            be profitable. Imagine having that mission state-
get side-tracked on your life's journey. It's easy to
                                                            ment as a road map to guide your daily actions! If
wander and drift, accomplishing little.
                                                            an activity didn't fit that formula, you wouldn't work
       But with a purpose, everything in life seems to on it. Period. If something was getting you off track
fall into place. To be "on purpose" means you're in life, you'd be able to recognize its short-comings
doing what you love to do, doing what you're good before spending too much time, energy or resources
at and accomplishing what's important to you. When on it. If something didn't fit all the criteria, you'd move
you are on purpose, the people, resources and op- on to the next thing that did. See the kind of focus a
portunities you need naturally gravitate toward you. stated purpose or mission statement can give you?
The world benefits, too.
                                                                   Let's look at other historical figures that have
       With a life purpose—carefully developed and had a stated purpose that guides their actions and
clearly stated—you suddenly have a basis for mak- energy:
ing all your major life decisions, for setting a lifetime's
                                                                   John F. Kennedy: To put a man on the moon
worth of goals and for pursuing one activity or goal
                                                            in this decade.
versus another.
                                                                   Andrew Carnegie, American steel industrial-
       Not only will thinking about and pursuing your
                                                            ist, founder of the public library system, and at one
life purpose get you to where you want to be, it will
                                                            time the richest man in the world: To spend the first
make the journey more enjoyable!
                                                            half of my life making as much money as I can
       In this chapter, you'll learn that your greatest — and the second half giving it away.
challenge will be to discover and use your natural
                                                                   Stanley Mason, inventor of the Band-Aid, dis-
talents, resources and abilities to their highest and
                                                            posable diapers and other consumable consumer
best use—for you…your family…and the world.
                                                            products: Create one invention a year that will
Let's get started now!
                                                            generate $10 million a year in royalties forever.
       What's In a Mission Statement?
                                                                   Jack Canfield: To inspire and empower
  The Life Purpose of Some of History's
                                                            people to live their higest vision in a context of
                 Greatest Names
                                                            love and joy.
Finding Your Personal Life Purpose:
                                                            But how does purpose differ from goals or
The "Why" Behind Everything You'll Do
                                                      action plans?
      Have you ever written down your life purpose?
                                                             Purpose is the "why" — the reason you cre-
If not, ask yourself this question: If I were provided
                                                       ate the goals you create and pursue the activities
with everything I wanted and needed to release
                                                       you do. It's the reason you strive to achieve the
my full potential and achieve my highest vision,
                                                       results you're looking for.
what would my purpose be?
                                                             Goals are merely the "what" you'll accomplish
      Finding your purpose is really discovering what
                                                       and action plans are simply the "how" you'll accom-
you were put on this Earth to do. Your purpose can
                                                       plish those goals. Without purpose as the compass,
tell you what to accomplish, for whom, how to ac-
                                                       goals and action plans are meaningless.
complish it and in what time frame. When you dis-
cover your purpose, life flows effortlessly. Oppor-          To determine your life's purpose — to develop
tunity seems to fall in your lap. Resources and rela- it in crystal-clear words that are compelling to you
tionships find you easily. Small successes build upon and others — take time now to complete the exer-
one another to create unstoppable momentum.            cises that follow. Then, finish by writing your own
                                                       heartfelt personal mission statement.
Life Purpose Exercise

1. List two of your unique personal qualities, such as enthusiasm and creativity.


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2. List one or two ways you enjoy expressing those qualities when interacting with others, such as to support and to inspire.


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3. Assume the world is perfect right now. What does this world look like? How is everyone interacting with everyone
   else? What does it feel like? This is a statement, in present tense, describing the ultimate condition, the perfect
   world as you see it and feel it. Remember a perfect world is a fun place to be. For example: Everyone is freely
   expressing their own unique talents. Everyone is working in harmony. Everyone is expressing love.


_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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4. Combine the three prior subdivisions of this paragraph into a single statement.

  Example: My purpose is to use my creativity and enthusiasm to support and inspire others to freely express their
  talents in a harmonious and loving way.

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There are several ways to approach defining your purpose. We learned this version of the life purpose exercise from
Arnold M. Patent. You can reach Arnold Patent at 28172 Via Chabas, Mission Viejo, CA 92692. (949) 770-7769.
www.arnoldpatent.com.
Finding Purpose in Your Career: Are You Where You Need to Be?
Why do I have the job I have? _________________________________________________________________
What purpose or higher good am I serving?________________________________________________________
Who does my work serve?____________________________________________________________________
Do those people need what I provide?           Yes, absolutely!     Maybe. I sometimes wonder.         Not really. They
could easily do without it.
What do they do with what I provide?____________________________________________________________
Do they, in turn, help others with what I give them? ____________________________________________________
Could I provide it differently, in a way that would better enable people to pass on the benefits? ____________________
Is there integrity in what I do for a living? _________ In what way? ______________________________________
Is integrity lacking in what I do for a living? _________ In what way? ______________________________________
If I could be doing anything I wanted to do, assured that all my living expenses and material needs and desires would
somehow be fulfilled, would I be working at this job?         Yes, absolutely! No, I'd leave tomorrow.
If not, how can I alter this job and make it into something I can be passionate about? __________________________
If this job ultimately isn't for me, how will I start transitioning into something new? _____________________________
Are there any negative aspects to my work?         No       Yes Am I the source for that? _______________________
Can I change any negative aspects?        No       Yes     How? ___________________________________________
Can I achieve my purpose only in this job? _________________________________________________________
How else can I achieve my purpose, if not in this job? __________________________________________________
Can I stay in this job and achieve my higher purpose?       Yes     No If yes, how? If no, why not? _______________
________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
 _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________
If I could wake up every morning, excited to face the day and eager to get to work, what would a day like this look like?
__________________________________________________________________________________________________


Finding Purpose in Your Marriage or Committed Relationship:
Are You More "On Purpose" as Two?
When you first met your spouse or partner, what activities were you both passionately interested in? ______________
What goals for your future did you both share? _____________________________________________________
Did you ever write down those goals?        Yes         No If not, when will you do so? _________________________
How have you pursued or met those? _____________________________________________________________
What vision did you originally have for your relationship? _____________________________________________
How could the two of you better support each other in reaching your full potential as individuals? __________________
_________________________________________________________________________________________________
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Finding Purpose in Your Family Relationships: What Were You Put on This Earth to Do?
Are you still close to your parents?        Yes      No Your grandparents?       Yes    No      Other seniors in your
family?      Yes       No
What's the most important reason you stay in touch with these “seniors”?__________________________________
Do you participate in frequent family activities with these "seniors"?     Yes    No What kind? _______________
Do you have children?        Yes       No
What are the most important lessons you'll teach them in your lifetime? ___________________________________
What's the greatest hope or aspiration you have for their future? _________________________________________
How important to you is that future? _____________________________________________________________
What steps do you regularly take to support that future? ______________________________________________
Does your family, including your children, support the activities or pursuits that interest you most? _______________
In what way do they support you? ______________________________________________________________
Does your family regularly participate in any activity that serves a goal or group of people outside your immediate
household?
     Yes      No     If yes, what is it? _____________________________________________________________
How did you get involved in this activity? _________________________________________________________
Would your family like to participate in any activity that serves a goal or group of people outside your immediate
household?     Yes       No If so, what _________________________________________________________
What might each family member do to support that desire or effort? _______________________________________
Have you all committed to that plan by writing it down on paper?         Yes     No If not, when will you do so?___
What specifically would you expect your efforts to accomplish? _________________________________________




Finding Purpose in Your Civic Activities: Does Your Calling Shine Through?

Are you active in organized civic groups?         Yes…Service Organization(s)    Yes…Social Club(s)      Yes…Hobby
Club(s)      No…None.
What is your reason for joining and staying active? ___________________________________________________
What satisfaction or enjoyment do you get out of these groups? __________________________________________
Do any of your groups serve others as a regular activity or stated goal? _____________________________________
Do you participate in those activities? _____________________________________________________________
Have you taken on leadership roles in these groups? _________ In what way? ______________________________
How do these groups serve to further your career or personal goals, even if they just provide relaxation time? _______
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Has meeting other members led to good things happening in your life outside club activities?    Yes, absolutely!
No, I wish it would.
What kinds of surprising benefits have resulted from your club associations? ________________________________
What other groups might you join that would further your life goals? ______________________________________
Finding Purpose as an Individual: What's the Best Use of Your Time, Talent and Passion?

 What are your best talents? ____________________________________________________________________
 Are you using those talents every day?      Yes, absolutely! In what ways_________________________________
                                             Not really. I could do better. In what ways? _______________________
 If the world at-large could benefit from your talents, how would they benefit? ________________________________
 How would they access your talent? ______________________________________________________________
 How might you make your talent more available to the world? ___________________________________________
 _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
 What takes up the majority of your time now? ________________________________________________________
 What would be a better use of your time? ___________________________________________________________
 How can you change your schedule so you have more time for this better use? _______________________________


                             Putting It All Together: Defining Your Purpose
Now it's time to put your thoughts together into a single statement that summarizes who you are and what you
are doing here…a single statement that explains what gives you zest for living…what gives you a sense of joy,
creativity and spontaneity that enables you to live every day more passionately than the last. Determining
what provides you with enthusiasm, excitement and fulfillment will help you develop a purpose for your life —
one that not only satisfies you personally, but serves the world, too. Complete the statements below to give you
the clues you need to write your personal statement of purpose.
Whether in my career or in my private life, the activity I am most passionate about and have been most
passionate about over time is…_________________________________________________________
The reason I'm so passionate about this activity is… ___________________________________________
I could pursue this activity full-time if I… ___________________________________________________
I could thrive in my family and committed relationships, while at the same time pursuing this activity if I
____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
This activity serves others in that it… _________________________________________________
When I daydream, the life I visualize for myself includes… __________________________________
When I'm at the end of my life, I hope to look back on my life and be satisfied that I accomplished...
________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
I know I will have led a life of meaning if I… _________________________________________________
Now combine all your thoughts above into the single statement below — a statement that explains a life pursuit
you can be passionate about and dedicated to long-term…a statement that explains what drives you, what
keeps you enthusiastic and what brings you fulfillment. That's the definition of a powerful life purpose!
The best use of my productive time, heartfelt effort and passionate dedication is to…
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4               Decide What You Want:
                Chances Are It Wants You!
       One of the most amazing phenomenon you’ll          personally important to you—not those you believe
ever experience as you incorporate The Success            should be important or those you believe the world
Principles into your daily life is the unexpected phone   expects you to value—but what’s truly important to
call, the windfall financial benefit or the uncanny new   you from the deepest place in your heart.
acquaintance that brings you exactly what you want
                                                             Once you know your “wants,” you must also
or need in order to achieve your loftiest goals —
                                                       determine your core values. What kinds of activi-
almost as if it were planned.
                                                       ties and priorities are in alignment with your integ-
       Perhaps it’s the Universe, rewarding your new rity? Which are outside your acceptable limits?
goal-setting activity and take-action attitude by har-
                                                             Think about it. You might “want” all the riches
nessing all the forces at its disposal. Or perhaps
                                                       and material wealth that could come from selling il-
you’ve worked hard and have “grown” yourself to
                                                       legal drugs, but you might find it very difficult to con-
the point where you’re finally ready to receive a
                                                       vince your mind and body of your enthusiasm, es-
benefit which had been waiting in the wings all along.
                                                       pecially if breaking the law and contributing to bro-
       But more probably, as researchers have now ken lives went against your basic values. In fact,
come to believe, it may simply be a matter of your engaging in an activity you don’t agree with often
subconscience focusing on and recognizing oppor- causes low self-esteem, depression, despondency,
tunity when it arrives.                                even anger. So be sure that what you want matches
                                                       your values and your life purpose.
       Whatever the explanation, the reality is that
what you want, wants you. Your goals, desires
and needs are patiently waiting to gravitate toward
                                                            Don’t Live Someone Else’s Dream
you, once you decide what you truly want.
                                                             Be certain, too, that what you “want” isn’t
       Of course, the main reason why most people
                                                       someone else’s version of what you should want.
don’t get what they want is they haven’t decided
what that “want” is. They haven’t defined their goals        Jack once met an anesthesiologist who made
— exactly — in clear and compelling detail. After made $350,000 a year, but whose real dream was to
all, how else can your mind know where to begin work on cars. He had wanted to be a mechanic, but
looking, seeing and hearing if you don’t give it spe- he knew his mother wouldn’t approve. Jack’s solu-
cific and detailed goals to achieve?                   tion? “Give yourself permission to buy a bunch of
                                                       cars and then work on them on the weekends.” What
                                                       the anesthesiologist wanted in his heart didn’t match
    Clarify Your Vision and Your Values                his picture of what he thought he should be.
       There’s a very powerful technique for helping            Unfortunately, the sad reality for most people
you define your goals in vivid, colorful and compel-      is they simply aren’t honest with themselves. If they
ling detail. But before using this technique to write     were, they would realize their “want to’s” are al-
down your goals…before defining the compelling            most always bigger than their “shoulds.” Back when
life you want for yourself, you first must know what      Janet was 25 years old and still working for other
your priorites are. Priorities are “wants” that are       people, her company’s Vice President asked her
what she really wanted. She replied, “If I said I             Being very astute, this gal created a little maga-
wanted to be President of the company, you’d tell       zine called Soap Opera Digest. Every week, she
me I shouldn’t aim so high!” But less than a month      watched all the soap operas, cataloged the plots and
later, Janet was promoted and given management of       wrote up little summaries, so that if a viewer missed
the company’s flagship product, which also hap-         their soap operas that week, they would know who
pened to be America’s top-selling software program      got divorced from whom, who finally married the
in its category.                                        doctor, and so on. Now, this woman makes a for-
                                                        tune watching and publishing information about soap
                                                        operas.
           Make an “I Wants” List
                                                               See how it’s possible to make a great living
      One of the easiest ways to begin determining doing what you want to do? You simply have to be
what you truly want is to ask a friend to help you willing to risk it.
make an “I Wants” list. Have the friend continually
ask, “What do you want? What do you want?” for
10-15 minutes, while jotting down your answers.                    Visualize What You Want
You’ll find the first “wants” aren’t all that profound.
                                                               Have a friend read this exercise to you or au-
In fact, most people usually hear themselves saying,
                                                        dio-record it and then listen back to it with your
“I want a Mercedes. I want a big house on the
                                                        eyes closed. Pause about one minute between each
ocean.” And so on. But by the end of the 15-minute
                                                        of the seven categories
exercise, the real you begins to speak: “I want people
to love me. I want to express myself. I want to make           Begin by listening to some relaxing music and
a difference. I want to feel powerful”…wants that sitting quietly in a comfortable environment.
are true expressions of your core values.
                                                               Then, begin visualizing your ideal life exactly
                                                        as if you are living it.
   Is “Making a Living” Stopping You?                       1. First, visualize your financial situation. How
                                                      much money do you have in your savings, how much
      Of course, what often stops people from ex-
                                                      do you make in income? What is your net worth?
pressing their true desire, is they don’t think they
                                                      How is your cash flow? Next…What does your
can make a living doing what they love to do.
                                                      home look like? Where is it? What color are the
      “What I love to do is hang out and talk with walls? Are there paintings hanging in the rooms?
people,” you might say.                               What do they look like? Walk through your perfect
                                                      house visually, using your mind’s eye.
      Well, Oprah Winfrey makes a living hanging
out talking with people. And Jack’s friend Diane            At this point, don’t worry about how you’ll
Brause, who is an international tour director, makes get that house. Don’t sabotage yorself by saying, “I
a living hanging out talking with people in some of can’t live in Malibu because I don’t make enough
the most exciting cities in the world.                money.” Once you give your mind’s eye the pic-
                                                      ture, your mind will solve the “not enough money”
      A woman once told Jack her favorite thing to
                                                      challenge.
do was to watch soap operas. “How can I make a
living watching soap operas?” she asked. Fortunately,       Simply be honest with yourself about what you
she discovered lots of other people loved watching truly want. Continue visualizing your perfect home.
soap operas, too, but often missed their favorite Next, visualize what kind of car you are driving.
shows because they also had to go to work.
                                                            2. Next, visualize your career. What are you
doing in your career? Where are you working? Who             7. Move on to the community you live in, the
are you working with? What kind of clients do you     community you’ve chosen. It’s ideal, isn’t it? What
have? What is your compensation like? Is it your does it look like? What kinds of community activi-
own business?                                         ties take place there? What about your charitable
                                                      work? What do you do to help others and make a
      3. Then, focus on your free time, your recre-
                                                      difference? How often every week do you partici-
ation time. What are you doing with your family and
                                                      pate in these activities? Who are you helping?
friends in the free time you’ve created for yourself?
What hobbies are you pursuing? What kinds of va-             Write these things in the worksheet on the
cations do you take?                                  next two pages, as you visualize them.
      4. Next, visualize your body and your physi-
cal health, your emotional and spiritual life. Are you
                                                         Share Your Vision for Maximum Impact
free and open, relaxed, perseverent, in an ecstatic
state of bliss all day long. What does that look like?         Then, finally, share your vision with somebody.
                                                         This can be very uncomfortable. In fact, most people
      5. Then move on to visualizing your relation-
                                                         say, “I can’t share that! It’s too personal. It’s too
ships with your family and friends. What is your re-
                                                         crazy. People will think I’m flaky.” But the truth is
lationship with your family like? Who are your
                                                         half the people you talk to will want the very same
friends? What are the quality of your relationships
                                                         thing. Everyone wants material wealth, loving rela-
with friends? What do those friendships feel like?
                                                         tionships, supportive family and friends and time to
Are they loving, supportive, empowering? Could they
                                                         help make a difference in our world. But too few of
be better?
                                                         us readily admit it. Sharing your vision helps your
       6. What about your own personal growth?           subconscious mind become accountable to make it
Do you see yourself going back to school, taking         happen.
training, seeking therapy for a past hurt or growing
spiritually?
Take a look at the examples below, then write your own visualized goals in the blanks provided.

                                                                                                                                                                Date I
                     What I Want…Specifically                                                                     Why I Want It                               Achieved It

   FINANCIAL GOALS                       (income, savings & investments, debt reduction, credit)

   1.   By December 31, 2004, I will be earning $10,000 a month net pre-tax income.                1.   So Abby can quit her job and stay home with Matt.
   2.   By June 30, 2007, I will make the last mortgage payment on the house.                      2.   To be debt-free after 15 years of credit slavery.
   3.   On September 1, 2004, I will begin saving $85/mo. for Matt’s college tuition.              3.   To give Matt the best start for his future career.

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   CAREER / BUSINESS GOALS (new job, self-employed, sales volume)
   1.   I will start my own restaurant consulting business by September 1, 2003.                   1.   I want to be free to earn as much as possible.
   2.   I will develop at least ten clients for the business by December 31, 2003.                 2.   I want to develop a stable income quickly.
   3.   I will find a financial partner to invest at least $500,000 by June 30, 2004.              3.   I want to expand, but only using outside resources.

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   FREE TIME / FAMILY TIME                            (days off, trips, hobbies, special events)
   1.   Starting January 1, 2004, I will take off 3 weeks in May and 3 weeks in October.
   2.   Susan, Matt and I will go on a first-class Kenya safari in October 2004.                   1.   I have missed too much of Matt’s childhood.
   3.   I will register for ground school August 15, 2003 and get my private pilot’s license       2.   Susan and I both enjoy nature and exotic locales.
        by August 31, 2005.                                                                        3.   It’s always been my dream to pilot my own plane.

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Date I
                   What I Want…Specifically                                                                     Why I Want It                                  Achieved It

HEALTH / APPEARANCE GOALS (lose weight, feel younger, eat better)
1.   I will be at my ideal weight of 178 pounds by November 1, 2003.                             1.   I will need to eat better and work out to reach 178.
2.   I will consult a holistic doctor about nutrition and lifestyle by June 1, 2003.             2.   I have concerns about circulation and longevity.
                                                                                                 3.   I look better and feel more confident without glasses.
3.   I will complete my laser eye surgery procedure by September 30, 2003.

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RELATIONSHIP GOALS                         (family, mentors, business alliances, staff, civic)
1.   I will re-establish communication with my brother by September 19, 2003.                    1.   Making up will help me bring closure to Dad’s death.
2.   I will approach Don Richardson September 9, 2003 about providing referrals.                 2.   This will help the business grow in reputation.
3.   I will begin holding staff trainings every week starting on July 15, 2003.                  3.   This will empower the staff and lessen my stress.


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PERSONAL GROWTH                         (education, spiritual growth, therapy, training)
1.   I will enroll December 3, 2003 & complete the Men’s Basics course at church.                1.   I have missed the spiritual guidance of male friends.
2.   I will attend the September 23, 2003 one-day training on negotiating skills.                2.   I would like to be more confident when negotiating.
3.   I will begin yoga four times a week commencing on July 17, 2003.                            3.   I believe I will feel more relaxed.

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MAKING A DIFFERENCE                              (charitable giving, church tithes, mentoring)
1.   I will work up to regularly tithing a full 10% of my gross income by Jan 6, 2004.           1.   I believe tithing helps me receive back ten-fold.
2.   I will volunteer mentor at least one young entrepreneur starting Fall Semester.             2.   I wish I had had a veteran entrepreneur help me.
3.   I will initiate a company-wide charitable matching program by Dec. 1, 2004.                 3.   I believe matching gifts boost employee loyalty.

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5            Visualize Your Way to Success:
             Create Compelling Pictures in Your Mind
      Visualization may be the most underutilized        our bodies when we worry? We tense up, disrupt
success tool that you possess. It can greatly accel-     our normal breathing, and psycho-physically pre-
erate the achievement of any success in three pow-       pare ourselves for failure. Instead, learn to use
erful ways.                                              positive visualization to prepare yourself for suc-
                                                         cess. As you do you will transform the energy
      1. Visualization will activate the creative pow-
                                                         that supports your worrying into fuel for mak-
ers of the subconscious mind.
                                                         ing your dreams come true.
      2. Visualization will program the reticular acti-
                                                                —Michael Gelb and Tony Buzan
vating system in your brain to open up the doors of
perception to notice resources that were always there
but were previously unnoticed. It focuses the brain.
                                                                Imagination’s everything. It is the preview
      3. Visualization will magnetize and attract to you of life’s coming attractions.
the people, resources, and opportunities that you
                                                                —Albert Einstein
will need to achieve your goal.
      This is simply how the brain works. None of
us were ever taught this in school. However, in the           Here is an excerpt from the forthcoming
last 25 years, sports psychologists and peak per-       Chicken Soup for the Athlete’s Soul in which
formance experts have been popularizing the power       Olympic gold medalist Peter Vidmar describes his
of visualization. Almost all Olympic and professional   use of visualization in his successful pursuit of the
athletes employ the power of visualization.             gold:


     I never hit a shot, not even in practice,               “To keep us focused on our Olympic goal, we
                                                        began ending our workouts by visualizing our dream.
     without having a very sharp, in-focus
                                                        We visualized ourselves actually competing in the
     picture of it in my head.                          Olympics and achieving our dream by practicing
                                                        what we thought would be the ultimate gymnastics
     —Jack Nicklaus, professional golfer
                                                        scenario.
                                                          I’d say, “Okay, Tim, let’s imagine it’s the men’s
      I visualized every step of the 400-meter race gymnastics team finals of the Olympic Games. The
until I saw every stride I would take.              United States team is on its last event of the night,
                                                    which just happens to be the high bar. The last two
      —Lee Evans, 1968 Olympic Gold Medalist
                                                    guys up for the United States are Tim Daggett and
                                                    Peter Vidmar. Our team is neck-and-neck with the
                                                    People’s Republic of China, the reigning world
      Most of us visualize on a daily basis, but
                                                    champions, and we have to perform our routines
we often do it unconsciously and in a negative
                                                    perfectly to win the Olympic team gold medal.”
fashion. It is called worrying. What happens to
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The success principles (bonus pack) jack canfield & janet switzer

  • 1. The Success Principles Your 30-Day Journey From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be Jack Canfield and Janet Switzer
  • 2. Success Is a Journey! What Do People Say Who Have Traveled With Us?… Jack Canfield doesn’t just give you hype. His Our group truly enjoyed your presentation. I down-to-earth style made it easy for our associates understand most of our folks gave you a #1, our to relate and follow through. We have seen a highest rating, on the evaluation sheets. You did a tremendous increase in our associates’ commissions, super job. as well as their attitude and self-esteem. —James J. Westervelt, Vice President —John Assaraf, RE/MAX of Indiana ITT Hartford You would have been thrilled to attend our You lead participants on a journey of self- recognition banquet Saturday night. Five of the discovery that is fascinating and fun while being solidly [salespeople] inducted into the President’s Circle, our founded on research and experience. Your handouts top managers and consultants, recalled your are eminently useful. presentation last year and how it gave them the vision —M.A. Armour, Director of Meeting Services and strategies to achieve their success. International Credit Association —John Zucker, VP Mktg Your powerful presentation influenced even the DONCASTER, A Tanner Company most staunch, hard core “nay sayers.” You have a At all levels, there is new confidence and great ability to teach and I was most impressed with commitment. District and Branch managers and their your style. You had a tremendous influence on our staffs are taking risks, making decisions, pushing employees, and that type of impact is worth paying through fears, asking for what they need, and are for. working better as a team. —P.S. Downs, Minnesota Power —Elliott Brown, Regional Vice President, The response was unanimous: You were Citicorp completely on target and had obviously done your We couldn’t have reacted more positively to your homework and been responsive to what we needed message. Our group has been through experiences that you to focus on at our convention. The topics...very left us feeling splintered and war-weary. For the first effectively supported and reinforced the rest of the time in a long time, people began expressing hope again agenda. Your material was perfect...One Director that we can accomplish even our loftiest goals. of Corporate Stores said, “Jack should be a given at — Jill Miller, Corporate Marketing Director every convention.” That says it all! Ortho Pharmaceutical Corporation —Marla Rosner, Vice President, A Johnson & Johnson Company SUPERCUTS The Ten Steps to Success are proving to be very I’m making major changes in all areas of my life valuable tools for our staff. Thank you for generating as a direct result of the skills I learned. The safe such excitement, improving our associates’ feelings environment you created allowed me to stretch in ways of self-worth and for presenting so many lessons in a I never would have thought possible. My business very short period of time. skills and interactions are enhanced... and my personal —D.A. Garrett, Human Resources life is opening widely. General Electric Capital Corporation —Linda Claire, Director, International Admin Neutrogena Corporation Without exception, the feedback could not have been more positive. People are speaking about the I have been able to awaken and utilize my talents “lasting impact” you had on them...your “sincerity like never before. I have not only helped people change and enthusiasm,” and how these qualities made the their lives, but I have changed my own as well. Each subject matter come to life and have a realism and new week brings exciting opportunities. Thank you relevance to their everyday lives. for all your guidance, encouragement and friendship. —Patrick O’Sullivan, Director, Sales Training —Todd McNally, Monogram Bank Westec Security, Inc.
  • 3. For me, the training provided an opportunity to the training powerful [and] goal-oriented...with renewed look at how I’ve been working in my organization respect for themselves and their co-workers. STAR and to consider options for changing my style, intent gave us a dynamic message and the tools to continue and behavior. My goal is to take the skills and integrate applying the concepts long after the program’s end. them into my presentations. —Diana Clark, District Sales Manager, AT&T —Judith Schuster, Training & Development A shot of Jack Canfield is just what we need SmithKline Laboratories occasionally to remind us how truly wonderful it is to “Fantastic” and “Ability to communicate with be human beings. My personal and professional life warmth and understanding” were just some of the is enriched because of your tapes. They’re comments that were given after your program. I will magnificent! highly recommend your program to anyone...it was —Didge Pearson, Senior Mgr, Membership so relevant and offered participants outstanding take- Assn for Information & Image Mgmt home value. I have found the tapes to be very effective in —Lola Green, Seminar Chairperson helping to slowly and solidly change my life. Not in Young Presidents Organization the slapdash overnight explosion other self- Members were riveted to your instructions. They empowerment experts promise, but in a more were intrigued by your insightfulness in working with consistent and effective way that I feel growing inside couples...They were moved to tears and to standing me everyday. ovations. You were humble, vulnerable, human, —Marie Jones, California humorous, witty, playful, outrageous, flexible and Janet Switzer is one of the best minds on the planet totally present. with a unique talent for producing profits I can bank. —Raymond Aaron, Director She’s easily made me hundreds of thousands of The Millionaire Club dollars with her simple strategies. I know she does My growth in relationships has been phenomenal. the same for companies in all sorts of industries. She I am able to take action to make things happen in my can do the same or more for you. life. I feel so blessed to have been able to experience —Mark Victor Hansen Self-Esteem 101 and realize the benefits daily. My co-author of the New York Times #1 self-imposed barriers go down with much less effort bestselling book series Chicken Soup for the now. Soul —TomAbbott,St.Louis Janet Switzer is the genius of choice for lots of very smart companies across the country. She’ll find One of the best programs we have ever seen at a way to bring in the money when everyone else has Honda. This is a wonderful program for people, failed…she understands budgets, risks, people and managers, trainers... anyone. It brings together many the bottom line. If you can get her to put you on her disciplines, technologies and approaches that helped schedule, consider yourself lucky…but don’t call her reinforce energy. unless you’re serious about making money. —Dominic Cirincione —Macrae Ross Manager, Training & Development independent growth and management American Honda Corporation strategist [Your program] may well have been one major I once saw Janet produce a highly specific and factor in an attitude upswing within my reporting fully articulated strategy within eight minutes of people. Nine out of ten have participated in the meeting a business owner and hearing about his program in the past eighteen months. business. In just 40 minutes at my office, Janet —Abbot Knowles, Manager provided me with an entire and fully integrated Jack New England Telephone Canfield doesn’t just give you hype. His down-to- I was struggling to find a vehicle that would help earth style made it easy for our associates to relate my people focus on what we really wanted and give us and follow through. We have seen a tremendous the tools to achieve those goals. People emerged from increase in our associates’ commissions, as well as their attitude and self-esteem. —John Assaraf, RE/MAX of Indianan
  • 4. Copyright © 2004 by Jack Canfield and Janet Switzer All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise without the written permission of the co-authors. Disclaimer: This manual and accompanying audio program is designed to provide information about the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher and co-author(s) are not engaged in rendering legal, accounting or other professional services. If legal or other expert assistance is required, the services of a competent professional should be sought. It is not the purpose of this manual or of the accompanying audio program and/or seminar to provide and reprint all the information that is otherwise available to the author and/or publisher, but to complement, amplify, supplement and direct you to other information and texts readily available. You are urged to read all the available material, learn as much as possible about the subject and to tailor the information to your individual needs. The resources listed in this manual are for information purposes only and such listings do not constitute referrals to these service or product providers. Publisher and/or author(s) cannot be held responsible for remedies to reader for any loss or damage experienced in dealing with listed resources. Every effort has been made to make this manual and the accompanying audio program and/or seminar as complete and as accurate as possible. However, there may be mistakes both typographical and in content. Therefore, this text should be used only as general guide and not as the ultimate source of information. Furthermore, this manual contains information available and current only up to the printing date. The purpose of this manual is to educate and entertain. The author(s) and/or publisher shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss or damage caused, or alleged to be caused, directly or indirectly by the information contained in this book. If you do not wish to be bound by the above, you may return this publication to the seller for a full refund. The tradename “The Success Principles,” its associated logo and trade dress are trademarks belonging to Jack Canfield and Janet Switzer. Chicken Soup for the Soul is a registered trademark of John T. Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen. Audio portion recorded at Master Tracks, Santa Barbara, California, www.mastertracks.net. Music written and performed by Douglas McKenna © 2003 Douglas McKenna. dmckenna@operamail.com. Publisher: The Canfield Training Group Media Contact: Success Network International P.O. Box 30880 107 North Reino Road #415 Santa Barbara, CA 93130 Newbury Park, CA 91320 U.S.A. (805) 563-2935 (805) 499-9400 • fax (805) 499-9470 fax (805) 563-2945 www.thesuccessprinciples.com www.jackcanfield.com media@thesuccessprinciples.com
  • 5. Introduction One of the greatest myths in this world isthat our clients, our spouse, the weather, the economy, we’re entitled to live a great life.That somehow, our astrological chart, our lack of good golf clubs— somewhere—someone—is required to fill our lives anyone or anything we can pin the blame on. We with continual happiness, enticing career options, never want to look at where the real problem is— empowering family time and blissful personal rela- ourself. tionships simply because we exist on this planet. We There is a wonderful story that is told about a expect these things—and when they don’t show up, man who is out walking one night and comes upon a for many of us at least, it’s someone else’s fault. man down on his knees looking for something under But perhaps the greatest truth in this world— a street lamp. The passerby inquires as to what the and the one lesson we hope this program will help other man is looking for. He answers that he is look- you learn over and over again—is that there’s only ing for his lost key. The man offers to help and gets one person responsible for the life you enjoy here. down on his knees and searches for the key. After an hour of fruitless searching, he says to the man, That person is YOU. “We’ve looked everywhere for it and we have not If you want to be successful, you have to take found it. Are you sure that you lost it here?” The 100% responsibility for everything you experience other man replies, “No, I lost it in my house, but in your life. From the level of your achievements to there is more light out here under the a streetlamp.” the results you produce, to the quality of your rela- How many times do you look for the answers tionships to the state of your health and physical fit- to your problems outside yourself, when the answer ness—even responsibility for your feelings, your in- lies within? It is you who creates the quality of the come, your debts...everything! life you lead and the results you produce. No one This is not easy. else! In fact, most of us have been conditioned to Choose Now to Make a Change blame something outside of ourselves for the parts Our final admonition to you as you start down of our life we don’t like. We blame our parents, our your path to future success, is that you have control bosses, our teachers, our friends, our co-workers, over just three things in your life—the thoughts you
  • 6. think, the images you visualize and the actions you producing the “more” that you are seeking in life, take. How you make the most of them determines the “more” would have already shown up. If you the outcomes you experience in life. want something different, you’re going to have to do something different! If you don’t like what you are producing and experiencing, choose now to change your responses. While this audio program will give you the strat- Change your negative thoughts to positive ones. egies and principles that are proven to help you ac- Change what you daydream about. If you don’t like quire the success-filled life you want, ultimately, you the way people treat you, say something about it or are the one who will execute these strategies and spend your time with different people. incorporate these principles into your everyday life If you keep doing what you’ve always done, The day you begin to do that is the day your you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten. In life will begin to change for the better! fact, if what you are currently doing was capable of
  • 7. 1 Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life With E+R=O Bob Resnick, one of Jack’s Successful people know that how they re- earliestmentors,teaches a simple, yet powerful for- spond can mean the difference between advance- mula we believe should be the primary rule guiding ment and riches — or regret about what could have your successful life: been. In fact, one of the greatest differences be- tween successful people and those who would merely like to be, is how they respond to the opportunities E+R=O in their life. Event + Response = Outcome How often have you reacted with fear or “I can’t” when opportunity knocks? Have you walked Stated succinctly, every outcome we experi- away from a life-changing opportunity? Or worse, ence in life is a direct result of how we respond to did you fail to recognize and respond to opportunity an individual event that occurs. that actually appeared as a crisis or other disaster? Sometimes that event is an unexpected op- Take a look: portunity that shows up. Other times, it’s a crisis we didn’t see coming. But in any case, it’s just the Event: Your co-workers continually miss way things are—the existential reality of our life. deadlines, forcing you to work late to bring projects in on time. So how can we create the best possible out- come in relation to an event we have no control Response: You grumble to your wife, but say over? By taking responsibility and changing the nothing to you co-workers or boss. way we respond to that event. Take a look at these two examples: Outcome: You end up working late most nights straining your marriage and family relationship. Event: You are given a $1,000 bonus. Response: You spend it on a weekend trip. Event: Your co-workers continually miss Outcome: You are broke. eadlines, forcing you to work late to bring projects in on time. Event: You are given a $1,000 bonus. Response: You investigate ways to streamline the process, then quietly present Response You invest it in your mutual fund. your better plan to the boss. Outcome: You have an increased net worth. Outcome: Your boss creates a special job title Can you see how your response — and your re- for you, sight on projects, which leads sponse alone — can significantly improve your life, or to increased responsibility, a year- alternatively, keep you exactly where you are today? end bonus and an increase in salary.
  • 8. The truth is...when confronted with a negative what they’re really saying is, “I know things could event, successful people look for ways to transform be better. I have a point of reference of something that negative into an opportunity for achievement and better which I prefer. I know the difference be- greater success. tween that ideal and the situation I’m in now. But I’m not willing to risk creating that other, more de- They simply respond differently. sirable scenario.” Do You Blame Events It’s simply easier and for Your Outcomes? less risky to complain. Of course, responding differently means you And it’s certainly easier than responding the must give up blaming the event itself. This is very way successful people do. If successful people don’t difficult. Our conditioning has trained us that when like the situation they find themselves in, they either: something doesn’t work, we blame what happened rather than our reaction to it: the traffic that made (a) work to make it better, or… you late for an important meeting, the bounced check (b) they leave and go somewhere else. that made your husband mad, your parents who still treat you like you’re 12, the company take-over that The truth is...for as fast as our society moves eliminated your job. today, things are likely to change anyway. Left alone, bad situations often get worse. But you can do Does this sound familiar? something to change them — if you’re willing to take “If only my boss would give me enough time 100% responsibility for your life. It’s up to you to to do the job...If only my husband understood what do something different. I’m trying to do with the kids...If only the kids would clean up their rooms...If only we had a better Do You Ignore the Yellow Alerts? economy...If only they would stop such-and-such...I would feel better.” Most people are surprised to hear that they’re usually notified in advance about the “negative” Stop blaming and complaining! events that occur in their lives. Like the “yellow Understand that the E’s (the events) aren’t re- alerts” in the old Star Trek television series, you re- sponsible for the O’s (the outcomes) you experi- ceive advance warnings — in the form of tell-tale ence in life. signs, comments from others, gut instinct, your intu- ition — that warn you of impending doom and give you time to prevent disaster from happening. Complaining Simply Means You Know There’s Something Better You have time to change your response (R) in the E+R=O equation. Complaining about the Events won’t help you change your outcomes, either. You can act, as successful people do — fac- ing facts squarely, doing the uncomfortable and tak- Isn’t it interesting that many people who stay ing steps to change the outcome. Successful people in bad situations never complain. Why? They sim- don’t wait for disaster to occur, and then blame ply don’t know any better. They don’t know that something or someone else for their problems. They things could be better. respond in time. They prevent things from going too But complainers know exactly what’s avail- far. able to them. Life Becomes Much Easier In fact, when you hear someone complain, Once you begin responding decisively to sig-
  • 9. nals and events as they occur, life becomes much for outcomes that are both good and bad. easier. The feelings of hopelessness and lack of When you confront a guy in a bar who is twice control go away. You start seeing two kinds of im- your size and say to him, “You’re ugly!” — then find proved outcomes — both internal and external. yourself in the hospital with a broken jaw — it’s Old internal dialogs like: “I feel like a victim. I easy to see you created that outcome. feel used. Only bad things happen to me,” are trans- But what about those outcomes that are more formed into, “I feel better. I’m in control. I can difficult to see? make things happen.” Let’s say you work late every night. You come External outcomes like, “Nobody comes to our home tired and burned out. You eat dinner in a stu- store. We missed our quarterly goals. People are por, then sit down to watch television. You are too complaining the new product doesn’t work,” be- tired and stressed out to do anything else — like go come outcomes like: “I have more money in the for a walk or play with the kids. This goes on for bank. I lead the division in sales. Our product is years. Your wife asks you to talk to her. “Later,” flying off the shelves.” you say. Three years from now you come home to Eventually, as you respond regularly to these an empty house and a find note that she’s left you yellow alerts, you begin to see events without need- and taken the kids. ing these advance warnings. You begin to anticipate You created that one, too! problems. Of course, in this kind of situation, it’s easy to And, you mature in your thinking. gloss over the obvious with self-righteous arguments Finally, you can accept the fact that you are like, “I was working hard to make a better life for the one who has created the way things are. You my family. I’m entitled to watch a ball game every took the actions, you thought the thoughts, you cre- now and then. I was a good provider, wasn’t I?” ated the feelings and you made the choices that got But perhaps the worst outcomes are those we you to where you are now. simply allow to happen, whether through inaction, You are the one who ate the food. You are the neglect or unspoken agreement. one who stayed in that job that you hate. You are You didn’t sign the petition when it came in the the one who married him. You are the one who mail, and now there’s a microwave tower in your wanted kids. You are the one who abandoned your neighborhood. You didn’t demand counseling the dream. You are the one who ignored your intuition. first time he hit you, and now the abuse has gotten You are the one who decided to go it alone. You worse. You didn’t follow through on your threat to are the one who decided you were damaged goods. take away privileges, and now the kids’ rooms look You are the one who trusted him. like a war zone. You didn’t go back to school, and And, come to think of it, you’re the one who now you are being passed over for a promotion. said yes to the dogs, too. You didn’t demand an audit, and now your partner has disappeared with the money. You didn’t leave It was you! when you saw the drugs, and now you are in jail. You Either Create It or When you allow outcomes like these to hap- Allow It to Happen pen, be aware that you are not a victim. In fact, you You alone have the power to make something can safely take credit for standing passively by and happen in your life, whether you actively create it or letting it happen. You didn’t say anything, make a passively allow it to happen or continue. This goes demand, say no, or leave.
  • 10. Like the yellow alerts we talked about before, Foreman once said, there were signs that you chose to ignore. Winners are those people who make a habit You didn’t acknowledge the alert or act upon of doing the things losers are uncomfortable do- it because that would have required you to do some- ing. thing uncomfortable. Whether it’s confronting your Don’t fail to respond to a yellow alert because spouse or speaking up in a staff meeting or leaving it’s easier, more convenient, less uncomfortable, less the premises, you are the only one who can respond confrontational, keeps the peace, doesn’t require to a yellow alert while there is still time to change it, taking risks, or confirms your low self-image. Take reverse it or save it. action! Don’t allow negative outcomes to be your My good friend, former Congressman Ed fate. The Early Years: Age _______ to Age _______ SuccessesIAchieved: SuccessLessonsILearned(useadditionalsheetsifnecessary): 1. 2. 3.
  • 11. How Would You Respond Differently? The following scenarios include inappropriate responses and undesirable outcomes. How would you respond differently in order to change the outcome? Poor Response / Undesirable Outcome Your Response / More Desirable Outcome Event: Your boss “dumps” last-minute projects on you. Event: Your boss “dumps” last-minute projects on you. Response: You stay late to finish them 2-3 nights a week. Your Response: You discuss the problem with your boss, Outcome: Your family life suffers and your wife is furious. offer solutions and now ask early in the day about any deadlines. Better Outcome: You feel more in control in the workplace, get home on time and your family relation- ships improve. Your teenager’s rage prob- lem diminishes and he’s doing better in school. You have time to share in household duties now so your wife is less resentful and more loving and supportive. Event: The house remodeler says permits aren’t needed. Event: The house remodeler says permits aren’t needed. Response: You believe him even though you’re not sure. Your Response: Outcome: The electrical wiring was poorly done, not inspectedand now you’re paying even more Better Outcome: money to have it re-done because the lights don’t work. Event: You now get 500 cable channels with DSS. Event: You now get 500 cable channels with DSS. Response: You spend your entire evening channel-surfing. Your Response: Outcome: You mindlessly eat snacks after dinner and bal- loon to 230 lbs. Following your lead, the kids Better Outcome: watch, too, instead of doing their homework. You end up yelling at them and their schoolwork suf- fers for lack of concentration and help from you. Event: You lose your job and now the creditors are call- ing. Event: You lose your job and now the creditors are Response: You ignore the calls and letters and don’t calling. investigateoptions for reducing your payment or negotiating better terms. Your Response: Outcome: Your credit rating is ruined, you have 4 judgments Better Outcome: against you and now that you just got a new job, they’re garnishing your wages and causing you embarrassment with your new boss. Event: A friend approaches you with a business idea. Response: Even though the business sounds wonderful, you Event: A friend approaches you with a business let your husband tell you it’s too good to be true, idea. so you don’t even investigate. You tell your friend no. Your Response: Outcome: Your friend’s idea was sound, the business took off and now she’s quitting her lackluster job be- Better Outcome: cause she’s making $9,000 a month. You’re still stuck in a job you hate, so you’re jealous and harbor resentment about your friend’s success.
  • 12. 2 Success Is a Learned Behavior One of our favorite stories is about a mess like this, eventually you have to clean it up. afamousresearch scientist who had made several So, how would you like to do that? We could use a veryimportant medical breakthroughs. towel, sponge or mop. Which do you prefer?” He was being interviewed by a newspaper After they were finished cleaning up the milk, reporter who asked him why he thought he was able she said, “What we have here is a failed experiment to succeed so much more than the average person, in how to carry a big bottle of milk with two tiny to be so much more creative than the average per- hands. Let’s go out in the backyard, fill the bottle son? In other words, what set him so far apart from with water and see if you can discover a way to others? carry it without dropping it.” And they did. He responded that, in his opinion, it all came What a wonderful lesson! from a lesson his mother taught him when he was The scientist then remarked it was at that mo- two years old. He’d been trying to take a bottle of ment he knew he didn’t have to be afraid to make milk out of the refrigerator, when he lost his grip and mistakes. Instead, he learned that mistakes were spilled the entire contents on the kitchen floor. His just opportunities for learning something new — mother, instead of scolding him, said, “What a won- which after all, is what scientific experiments are all derful mess you’ve made! I’ve rarely seen such a about. huge puddle of milk. Well, the damage is already done. Would you like to get down and play in the That bottle of spilled milk led to a lifetime of milk before we clean it up?” learning experiences — experiences that were the building blocks of a lifetime of world-renowned suc- Indeed, he did. And, after a few minutes, his cesses and medical breakthroughs! mother continued, “You know, whenever you make Taking Inventory of Your Life Successes: What Milk Have You Spilled? What did you learn each time you achieved try new things, when we move outside our something new? How did you have to “stretch” in comfort zone, and when we make new contacts that your ability? In other words, what skills did you ac- can help us in our journey. quire, what techniques did you learn, and what rela- The more you acknowledge that you are suc- tionships did you form that helped you achieve sig- cessful (and the more you acknowledge what you nificant successes in your life? already know), the better prepared you’ll be to ben- We’ll be inventorying your life’s successes in efit from the success training you’ll experience in this just a moment, but as you do, remember that suc- workbook. Let’s start working on your success cess is a learned behavior. We succeed when we now!
  • 13. To start the process of taking inventory: Di- to 15 years, 16 to 30 years and 31 to 45 years. vide your life into three parts — for example, if you Then list three successes for each time frame — and are 45 years old today, your three parts would be 0 list what you learned as you achieved that success. TheEarlyYears:Age_______toAge_______ SuccessesIAchieved SuccessLessonsILearned (useadditionalsheetsifnecessary) 1. 2. 3. The Middle Years: Age _______ to Age _______ SuccessesIAchieved SuccessLessonsILearned(useadditionalsheetsifnecessary) 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
  • 14. The Most Recent Years: Age _______ to Age _______ SuccessesIAchieved SuccessLessonsILearned(useadditionalsheetsifnecessary) 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
  • 15. Now let’s take a look at the next five years...your immediately. In future days, we’ll be building on these immediate future which we’ll be working on over the next thoughts with step-by-step strategies for developing and 30 days. What do you want to accomplish? What would achieving these specific goals! you like to achieve? Quickly jot down what comes to mind The Next Five Years Successes I Will Achieve What Knowledge, Skills, Habits, Self-Disciplines, Relationships and Resources Will I Need to Develop to Achieve These Successes (use additional sheets if necessary) 1. ______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 2. ______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 3. ______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 4. ______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 5. ______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 6. ______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 7. ______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 8. ______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 9. ______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 10. _____________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________
  • 16. 3 Discover Your Unique Purpose: What Were You Put on This Earth To Do? Janet and I discovered long ago what we were Surprisingly, some of the greatest names in his- put on this earth to do. We determined our purpose tory have had some of the simplest personal mission in life, our "right livelihood." We discovered how to statements. Titans of industry, leaders of major world inject passion and determination into every activity governments, entertainment giants — have all had a we undertake. And we learned how purpose can definitive life purpose that drives their daily actions, bring an aspect of fun and fulfillment to virtually ev- helping them create great successes and positively erything we do. impact generations of people. Now we'd like to help uncover the same se- Take Thomas Edison, for example: His stated cret for you. mission was to create inventions that people needed, that people would pay for and that would You see, without a purpose in life, it's easy to be profitable. Imagine having that mission state- get side-tracked on your life's journey. It's easy to ment as a road map to guide your daily actions! If wander and drift, accomplishing little. an activity didn't fit that formula, you wouldn't work But with a purpose, everything in life seems to on it. Period. If something was getting you off track fall into place. To be "on purpose" means you're in life, you'd be able to recognize its short-comings doing what you love to do, doing what you're good before spending too much time, energy or resources at and accomplishing what's important to you. When on it. If something didn't fit all the criteria, you'd move you are on purpose, the people, resources and op- on to the next thing that did. See the kind of focus a portunities you need naturally gravitate toward you. stated purpose or mission statement can give you? The world benefits, too. Let's look at other historical figures that have With a life purpose—carefully developed and had a stated purpose that guides their actions and clearly stated—you suddenly have a basis for mak- energy: ing all your major life decisions, for setting a lifetime's John F. Kennedy: To put a man on the moon worth of goals and for pursuing one activity or goal in this decade. versus another. Andrew Carnegie, American steel industrial- Not only will thinking about and pursuing your ist, founder of the public library system, and at one life purpose get you to where you want to be, it will time the richest man in the world: To spend the first make the journey more enjoyable! half of my life making as much money as I can In this chapter, you'll learn that your greatest — and the second half giving it away. challenge will be to discover and use your natural Stanley Mason, inventor of the Band-Aid, dis- talents, resources and abilities to their highest and posable diapers and other consumable consumer best use—for you…your family…and the world. products: Create one invention a year that will Let's get started now! generate $10 million a year in royalties forever. What's In a Mission Statement? Jack Canfield: To inspire and empower The Life Purpose of Some of History's people to live their higest vision in a context of Greatest Names love and joy.
  • 17. Finding Your Personal Life Purpose: But how does purpose differ from goals or The "Why" Behind Everything You'll Do action plans? Have you ever written down your life purpose? Purpose is the "why" — the reason you cre- If not, ask yourself this question: If I were provided ate the goals you create and pursue the activities with everything I wanted and needed to release you do. It's the reason you strive to achieve the my full potential and achieve my highest vision, results you're looking for. what would my purpose be? Goals are merely the "what" you'll accomplish Finding your purpose is really discovering what and action plans are simply the "how" you'll accom- you were put on this Earth to do. Your purpose can plish those goals. Without purpose as the compass, tell you what to accomplish, for whom, how to ac- goals and action plans are meaningless. complish it and in what time frame. When you dis- cover your purpose, life flows effortlessly. Oppor- To determine your life's purpose — to develop tunity seems to fall in your lap. Resources and rela- it in crystal-clear words that are compelling to you tionships find you easily. Small successes build upon and others — take time now to complete the exer- one another to create unstoppable momentum. cises that follow. Then, finish by writing your own heartfelt personal mission statement.
  • 18. Life Purpose Exercise 1. List two of your unique personal qualities, such as enthusiasm and creativity. _______________________________________ ____________________________________ 2. List one or two ways you enjoy expressing those qualities when interacting with others, such as to support and to inspire. _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ 3. Assume the world is perfect right now. What does this world look like? How is everyone interacting with everyone else? What does it feel like? This is a statement, in present tense, describing the ultimate condition, the perfect world as you see it and feel it. Remember a perfect world is a fun place to be. For example: Everyone is freely expressing their own unique talents. Everyone is working in harmony. Everyone is expressing love. _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ 4. Combine the three prior subdivisions of this paragraph into a single statement. Example: My purpose is to use my creativity and enthusiasm to support and inspire others to freely express their talents in a harmonious and loving way. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ There are several ways to approach defining your purpose. We learned this version of the life purpose exercise from Arnold M. Patent. You can reach Arnold Patent at 28172 Via Chabas, Mission Viejo, CA 92692. (949) 770-7769. www.arnoldpatent.com.
  • 19. Finding Purpose in Your Career: Are You Where You Need to Be? Why do I have the job I have? _________________________________________________________________ What purpose or higher good am I serving?________________________________________________________ Who does my work serve?____________________________________________________________________ Do those people need what I provide? Yes, absolutely! Maybe. I sometimes wonder. Not really. They could easily do without it. What do they do with what I provide?____________________________________________________________ Do they, in turn, help others with what I give them? ____________________________________________________ Could I provide it differently, in a way that would better enable people to pass on the benefits? ____________________ Is there integrity in what I do for a living? _________ In what way? ______________________________________ Is integrity lacking in what I do for a living? _________ In what way? ______________________________________ If I could be doing anything I wanted to do, assured that all my living expenses and material needs and desires would somehow be fulfilled, would I be working at this job? Yes, absolutely! No, I'd leave tomorrow. If not, how can I alter this job and make it into something I can be passionate about? __________________________ If this job ultimately isn't for me, how will I start transitioning into something new? _____________________________ Are there any negative aspects to my work? No Yes Am I the source for that? _______________________ Can I change any negative aspects? No Yes How? ___________________________________________ Can I achieve my purpose only in this job? _________________________________________________________ How else can I achieve my purpose, if not in this job? __________________________________________________ Can I stay in this job and achieve my higher purpose? Yes No If yes, how? If no, why not? _______________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If I could wake up every morning, excited to face the day and eager to get to work, what would a day like this look like? __________________________________________________________________________________________________ Finding Purpose in Your Marriage or Committed Relationship: Are You More "On Purpose" as Two? When you first met your spouse or partner, what activities were you both passionately interested in? ______________ What goals for your future did you both share? _____________________________________________________ Did you ever write down those goals? Yes No If not, when will you do so? _________________________ How have you pursued or met those? _____________________________________________________________ What vision did you originally have for your relationship? _____________________________________________ How could the two of you better support each other in reaching your full potential as individuals? __________________ _________________________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________________________
  • 20. Finding Purpose in Your Family Relationships: What Were You Put on This Earth to Do? Are you still close to your parents? Yes No Your grandparents? Yes No Other seniors in your family? Yes No What's the most important reason you stay in touch with these “seniors”?__________________________________ Do you participate in frequent family activities with these "seniors"? Yes No What kind? _______________ Do you have children? Yes No What are the most important lessons you'll teach them in your lifetime? ___________________________________ What's the greatest hope or aspiration you have for their future? _________________________________________ How important to you is that future? _____________________________________________________________ What steps do you regularly take to support that future? ______________________________________________ Does your family, including your children, support the activities or pursuits that interest you most? _______________ In what way do they support you? ______________________________________________________________ Does your family regularly participate in any activity that serves a goal or group of people outside your immediate household? Yes No If yes, what is it? _____________________________________________________________ How did you get involved in this activity? _________________________________________________________ Would your family like to participate in any activity that serves a goal or group of people outside your immediate household? Yes No If so, what _________________________________________________________ What might each family member do to support that desire or effort? _______________________________________ Have you all committed to that plan by writing it down on paper? Yes No If not, when will you do so?___ What specifically would you expect your efforts to accomplish? _________________________________________ Finding Purpose in Your Civic Activities: Does Your Calling Shine Through? Are you active in organized civic groups? Yes…Service Organization(s) Yes…Social Club(s) Yes…Hobby Club(s) No…None. What is your reason for joining and staying active? ___________________________________________________ What satisfaction or enjoyment do you get out of these groups? __________________________________________ Do any of your groups serve others as a regular activity or stated goal? _____________________________________ Do you participate in those activities? _____________________________________________________________ Have you taken on leadership roles in these groups? _________ In what way? ______________________________ How do these groups serve to further your career or personal goals, even if they just provide relaxation time? _______ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Has meeting other members led to good things happening in your life outside club activities? Yes, absolutely! No, I wish it would. What kinds of surprising benefits have resulted from your club associations? ________________________________ What other groups might you join that would further your life goals? ______________________________________
  • 21. Finding Purpose as an Individual: What's the Best Use of Your Time, Talent and Passion? What are your best talents? ____________________________________________________________________ Are you using those talents every day? Yes, absolutely! In what ways_________________________________ Not really. I could do better. In what ways? _______________________ If the world at-large could benefit from your talents, how would they benefit? ________________________________ How would they access your talent? ______________________________________________________________ How might you make your talent more available to the world? ___________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ What takes up the majority of your time now? ________________________________________________________ What would be a better use of your time? ___________________________________________________________ How can you change your schedule so you have more time for this better use? _______________________________ Putting It All Together: Defining Your Purpose Now it's time to put your thoughts together into a single statement that summarizes who you are and what you are doing here…a single statement that explains what gives you zest for living…what gives you a sense of joy, creativity and spontaneity that enables you to live every day more passionately than the last. Determining what provides you with enthusiasm, excitement and fulfillment will help you develop a purpose for your life — one that not only satisfies you personally, but serves the world, too. Complete the statements below to give you the clues you need to write your personal statement of purpose. Whether in my career or in my private life, the activity I am most passionate about and have been most passionate about over time is…_________________________________________________________ The reason I'm so passionate about this activity is… ___________________________________________ I could pursue this activity full-time if I… ___________________________________________________ I could thrive in my family and committed relationships, while at the same time pursuing this activity if I ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ This activity serves others in that it… _________________________________________________ When I daydream, the life I visualize for myself includes… __________________________________ When I'm at the end of my life, I hope to look back on my life and be satisfied that I accomplished... ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ I know I will have led a life of meaning if I… _________________________________________________ Now combine all your thoughts above into the single statement below — a statement that explains a life pursuit you can be passionate about and dedicated to long-term…a statement that explains what drives you, what keeps you enthusiastic and what brings you fulfillment. That's the definition of a powerful life purpose! The best use of my productive time, heartfelt effort and passionate dedication is to… ________________________________________________________________________________
  • 22. 4 Decide What You Want: Chances Are It Wants You! One of the most amazing phenomenon you’ll personally important to you—not those you believe ever experience as you incorporate The Success should be important or those you believe the world Principles into your daily life is the unexpected phone expects you to value—but what’s truly important to call, the windfall financial benefit or the uncanny new you from the deepest place in your heart. acquaintance that brings you exactly what you want Once you know your “wants,” you must also or need in order to achieve your loftiest goals — determine your core values. What kinds of activi- almost as if it were planned. ties and priorities are in alignment with your integ- Perhaps it’s the Universe, rewarding your new rity? Which are outside your acceptable limits? goal-setting activity and take-action attitude by har- Think about it. You might “want” all the riches nessing all the forces at its disposal. Or perhaps and material wealth that could come from selling il- you’ve worked hard and have “grown” yourself to legal drugs, but you might find it very difficult to con- the point where you’re finally ready to receive a vince your mind and body of your enthusiasm, es- benefit which had been waiting in the wings all along. pecially if breaking the law and contributing to bro- But more probably, as researchers have now ken lives went against your basic values. In fact, come to believe, it may simply be a matter of your engaging in an activity you don’t agree with often subconscience focusing on and recognizing oppor- causes low self-esteem, depression, despondency, tunity when it arrives. even anger. So be sure that what you want matches your values and your life purpose. Whatever the explanation, the reality is that what you want, wants you. Your goals, desires and needs are patiently waiting to gravitate toward Don’t Live Someone Else’s Dream you, once you decide what you truly want. Be certain, too, that what you “want” isn’t Of course, the main reason why most people someone else’s version of what you should want. don’t get what they want is they haven’t decided what that “want” is. They haven’t defined their goals Jack once met an anesthesiologist who made — exactly — in clear and compelling detail. After made $350,000 a year, but whose real dream was to all, how else can your mind know where to begin work on cars. He had wanted to be a mechanic, but looking, seeing and hearing if you don’t give it spe- he knew his mother wouldn’t approve. Jack’s solu- cific and detailed goals to achieve? tion? “Give yourself permission to buy a bunch of cars and then work on them on the weekends.” What the anesthesiologist wanted in his heart didn’t match Clarify Your Vision and Your Values his picture of what he thought he should be. There’s a very powerful technique for helping Unfortunately, the sad reality for most people you define your goals in vivid, colorful and compel- is they simply aren’t honest with themselves. If they ling detail. But before using this technique to write were, they would realize their “want to’s” are al- down your goals…before defining the compelling most always bigger than their “shoulds.” Back when life you want for yourself, you first must know what Janet was 25 years old and still working for other your priorites are. Priorities are “wants” that are people, her company’s Vice President asked her
  • 23. what she really wanted. She replied, “If I said I Being very astute, this gal created a little maga- wanted to be President of the company, you’d tell zine called Soap Opera Digest. Every week, she me I shouldn’t aim so high!” But less than a month watched all the soap operas, cataloged the plots and later, Janet was promoted and given management of wrote up little summaries, so that if a viewer missed the company’s flagship product, which also hap- their soap operas that week, they would know who pened to be America’s top-selling software program got divorced from whom, who finally married the in its category. doctor, and so on. Now, this woman makes a for- tune watching and publishing information about soap operas. Make an “I Wants” List See how it’s possible to make a great living One of the easiest ways to begin determining doing what you want to do? You simply have to be what you truly want is to ask a friend to help you willing to risk it. make an “I Wants” list. Have the friend continually ask, “What do you want? What do you want?” for 10-15 minutes, while jotting down your answers. Visualize What You Want You’ll find the first “wants” aren’t all that profound. Have a friend read this exercise to you or au- In fact, most people usually hear themselves saying, dio-record it and then listen back to it with your “I want a Mercedes. I want a big house on the eyes closed. Pause about one minute between each ocean.” And so on. But by the end of the 15-minute of the seven categories exercise, the real you begins to speak: “I want people to love me. I want to express myself. I want to make Begin by listening to some relaxing music and a difference. I want to feel powerful”…wants that sitting quietly in a comfortable environment. are true expressions of your core values. Then, begin visualizing your ideal life exactly as if you are living it. Is “Making a Living” Stopping You? 1. First, visualize your financial situation. How much money do you have in your savings, how much Of course, what often stops people from ex- do you make in income? What is your net worth? pressing their true desire, is they don’t think they How is your cash flow? Next…What does your can make a living doing what they love to do. home look like? Where is it? What color are the “What I love to do is hang out and talk with walls? Are there paintings hanging in the rooms? people,” you might say. What do they look like? Walk through your perfect house visually, using your mind’s eye. Well, Oprah Winfrey makes a living hanging out talking with people. And Jack’s friend Diane At this point, don’t worry about how you’ll Brause, who is an international tour director, makes get that house. Don’t sabotage yorself by saying, “I a living hanging out talking with people in some of can’t live in Malibu because I don’t make enough the most exciting cities in the world. money.” Once you give your mind’s eye the pic- ture, your mind will solve the “not enough money” A woman once told Jack her favorite thing to challenge. do was to watch soap operas. “How can I make a living watching soap operas?” she asked. Fortunately, Simply be honest with yourself about what you she discovered lots of other people loved watching truly want. Continue visualizing your perfect home. soap operas, too, but often missed their favorite Next, visualize what kind of car you are driving. shows because they also had to go to work. 2. Next, visualize your career. What are you
  • 24. doing in your career? Where are you working? Who 7. Move on to the community you live in, the are you working with? What kind of clients do you community you’ve chosen. It’s ideal, isn’t it? What have? What is your compensation like? Is it your does it look like? What kinds of community activi- own business? ties take place there? What about your charitable work? What do you do to help others and make a 3. Then, focus on your free time, your recre- difference? How often every week do you partici- ation time. What are you doing with your family and pate in these activities? Who are you helping? friends in the free time you’ve created for yourself? What hobbies are you pursuing? What kinds of va- Write these things in the worksheet on the cations do you take? next two pages, as you visualize them. 4. Next, visualize your body and your physi- cal health, your emotional and spiritual life. Are you Share Your Vision for Maximum Impact free and open, relaxed, perseverent, in an ecstatic state of bliss all day long. What does that look like? Then, finally, share your vision with somebody. This can be very uncomfortable. In fact, most people 5. Then move on to visualizing your relation- say, “I can’t share that! It’s too personal. It’s too ships with your family and friends. What is your re- crazy. People will think I’m flaky.” But the truth is lationship with your family like? Who are your half the people you talk to will want the very same friends? What are the quality of your relationships thing. Everyone wants material wealth, loving rela- with friends? What do those friendships feel like? tionships, supportive family and friends and time to Are they loving, supportive, empowering? Could they help make a difference in our world. But too few of be better? us readily admit it. Sharing your vision helps your 6. What about your own personal growth? subconscious mind become accountable to make it Do you see yourself going back to school, taking happen. training, seeking therapy for a past hurt or growing spiritually?
  • 25. Take a look at the examples below, then write your own visualized goals in the blanks provided. Date I What I Want…Specifically Why I Want It Achieved It FINANCIAL GOALS (income, savings & investments, debt reduction, credit) 1. By December 31, 2004, I will be earning $10,000 a month net pre-tax income. 1. So Abby can quit her job and stay home with Matt. 2. By June 30, 2007, I will make the last mortgage payment on the house. 2. To be debt-free after 15 years of credit slavery. 3. On September 1, 2004, I will begin saving $85/mo. for Matt’s college tuition. 3. To give Matt the best start for his future career. ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ CAREER / BUSINESS GOALS (new job, self-employed, sales volume) 1. I will start my own restaurant consulting business by September 1, 2003. 1. I want to be free to earn as much as possible. 2. I will develop at least ten clients for the business by December 31, 2003. 2. I want to develop a stable income quickly. 3. I will find a financial partner to invest at least $500,000 by June 30, 2004. 3. I want to expand, but only using outside resources. ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ FREE TIME / FAMILY TIME (days off, trips, hobbies, special events) 1. Starting January 1, 2004, I will take off 3 weeks in May and 3 weeks in October. 2. Susan, Matt and I will go on a first-class Kenya safari in October 2004. 1. I have missed too much of Matt’s childhood. 3. I will register for ground school August 15, 2003 and get my private pilot’s license 2. Susan and I both enjoy nature and exotic locales. by August 31, 2005. 3. It’s always been my dream to pilot my own plane. ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________
  • 26. Date I What I Want…Specifically Why I Want It Achieved It HEALTH / APPEARANCE GOALS (lose weight, feel younger, eat better) 1. I will be at my ideal weight of 178 pounds by November 1, 2003. 1. I will need to eat better and work out to reach 178. 2. I will consult a holistic doctor about nutrition and lifestyle by June 1, 2003. 2. I have concerns about circulation and longevity. 3. I look better and feel more confident without glasses. 3. I will complete my laser eye surgery procedure by September 30, 2003. ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ RELATIONSHIP GOALS (family, mentors, business alliances, staff, civic) 1. I will re-establish communication with my brother by September 19, 2003. 1. Making up will help me bring closure to Dad’s death. 2. I will approach Don Richardson September 9, 2003 about providing referrals. 2. This will help the business grow in reputation. 3. I will begin holding staff trainings every week starting on July 15, 2003. 3. This will empower the staff and lessen my stress. ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ PERSONAL GROWTH (education, spiritual growth, therapy, training) 1. I will enroll December 3, 2003 & complete the Men’s Basics course at church. 1. I have missed the spiritual guidance of male friends. 2. I will attend the September 23, 2003 one-day training on negotiating skills. 2. I would like to be more confident when negotiating. 3. I will begin yoga four times a week commencing on July 17, 2003. 3. I believe I will feel more relaxed. ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ MAKING A DIFFERENCE (charitable giving, church tithes, mentoring) 1. I will work up to regularly tithing a full 10% of my gross income by Jan 6, 2004. 1. I believe tithing helps me receive back ten-fold. 2. I will volunteer mentor at least one young entrepreneur starting Fall Semester. 2. I wish I had had a veteran entrepreneur help me. 3. I will initiate a company-wide charitable matching program by Dec. 1, 2004. 3. I believe matching gifts boost employee loyalty. ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________ ___________________________________________________ _________________________________ _________
  • 27. 5 Visualize Your Way to Success: Create Compelling Pictures in Your Mind Visualization may be the most underutilized our bodies when we worry? We tense up, disrupt success tool that you possess. It can greatly accel- our normal breathing, and psycho-physically pre- erate the achievement of any success in three pow- pare ourselves for failure. Instead, learn to use erful ways. positive visualization to prepare yourself for suc- cess. As you do you will transform the energy 1. Visualization will activate the creative pow- that supports your worrying into fuel for mak- ers of the subconscious mind. ing your dreams come true. 2. Visualization will program the reticular acti- —Michael Gelb and Tony Buzan vating system in your brain to open up the doors of perception to notice resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed. It focuses the brain. Imagination’s everything. It is the preview 3. Visualization will magnetize and attract to you of life’s coming attractions. the people, resources, and opportunities that you —Albert Einstein will need to achieve your goal. This is simply how the brain works. None of us were ever taught this in school. However, in the Here is an excerpt from the forthcoming last 25 years, sports psychologists and peak per- Chicken Soup for the Athlete’s Soul in which formance experts have been popularizing the power Olympic gold medalist Peter Vidmar describes his of visualization. Almost all Olympic and professional use of visualization in his successful pursuit of the athletes employ the power of visualization. gold: I never hit a shot, not even in practice, “To keep us focused on our Olympic goal, we began ending our workouts by visualizing our dream. without having a very sharp, in-focus We visualized ourselves actually competing in the picture of it in my head. Olympics and achieving our dream by practicing what we thought would be the ultimate gymnastics —Jack Nicklaus, professional golfer scenario. I’d say, “Okay, Tim, let’s imagine it’s the men’s I visualized every step of the 400-meter race gymnastics team finals of the Olympic Games. The until I saw every stride I would take. United States team is on its last event of the night, which just happens to be the high bar. The last two —Lee Evans, 1968 Olympic Gold Medalist guys up for the United States are Tim Daggett and Peter Vidmar. Our team is neck-and-neck with the People’s Republic of China, the reigning world Most of us visualize on a daily basis, but champions, and we have to perform our routines we often do it unconsciously and in a negative perfectly to win the Olympic team gold medal.” fashion. It is called worrying. What happens to