This presentation is to help people understand what Self confidence is and how it develops in their lives. There are a number of factors that lead to one having or lacking self confidence. Self confidence is necessary in a person's life as it determines a person's achievement in family, business or professional areas. Knowing how you can develop a self confidence will go a long way in helping you to maximise on the process thus achieve goals that are important to you.

1. Self-Esteem/
Self Confidence

3. Activity
• Every teen to introduce himself or
herself by saying his/her name as “My
name is ……and am proud to be me
because ………….

4. Activity: Magic Box
• "Who do you think is the most special person in the whole world?“
• Each client takes a look into the box after you ask them who they think
they will see
STOP-n-THINK
• "Are you surprised?"
• "How does it feel to see that you are the special person?"
• "You smiled so big- are you happy to see that you're the special person?"
• How is it possible for everyone to be the special one?
• Everyone to keep their brochure and reread it when they are not feeling
good about themselves

5. What is Self Esteem?
• Self-esteem is the way we think and feel
about ourselves.
• It’s a person's overall sense of self-worth or
personal value.
• It’s the feeling that,
 “I’m important”,
 “I’m worthy”,
 “My needs are important” and
 “I’m good enough and accept myself, with all my strengths
and weaknesses”
• Unconditional love is the cornerstone of self-
esteem

6.  Builds strong convictions
 Creates willingness to accept
responsibility
 Builds optimistic attitudes
 Leads to better relationships
 Makes a person self motivated
 Improves performance and risk taking
ability.
Characteristics of Self-Esteem:

7. • Positive self-esteem affects our
physical well-being as well as our
likelihood for success
• It influences a teen’s ability to learn,
grow, be creative, relate to others,
make smart choices in life, and
achieve goals

8. Children and young people with high
self esteem
• Have a positive image of
themselves
• Are confident
• Can make friends easily and are
not anxious with new people
• Can play in groups or on their
own

9. • Will try and solve problems on their
own, but if not able to will ask for
help
• Can be proud of their
achievements
• Can admit mistakes and learn from
them
• Will try new things and adapt to
change.

10. Children with low self-esteem:
• Have a negative image of themselves and may feel
bad, ugly, unlikeable or stupid
• Lack confidence
• Find it hard to make and keep friendships, and may
feel victimised by others
• Tend to avoid new things and find change hard
• Can't deal well with failure.
• Tend to put themselves down and might say things
like "I’m stupid" or "I can't do that" (before they have
tried)
• Are not proud of what they achieve and always think
they could have done better.
• Are constantly comparing themselves to their peers in
a negative way.

11. What is Low Self Esteem?
• Low self esteem is when a person feels
like they are not up to standard.
• This person will see everyone and
everything as being more worthy than
themselves.
• They tend to look down and walk in a
sluggish way
• Low self esteem is a symptom of
depression

12. How Self Esteem Develops
• It’s shaped by messages we receive from
significant adults early on in life
Parents
Teachers
Siblings
Friends
Society- prejudice and stigma
• Low self-esteem is learned- learned,
inaccurate information that you’re in some
way not enough, that you don’t matter, that
your feelings are wrong, or that you don’t
deserve respect.

13. How Self Esteem Develops
• These beliefs are often taken as facts or
truths about their identity.
• People with low self esteem hold a
deep-seated, basic negative beliefs
about themselves and the kind of
persons they are.

14. Facts about Low Self-Esteem
Teen suicide is the 3rd leading cause of
death amongst young people.
One out of four girls have sex for the
first time in order to be liked!
Boys join gangs not to feel safer but to
feel more important.

15. Over 75 per cent of children who come for
counseling, struggle with low self-esteem.
Between 80-90% of adolescents who come
for counseling, come with issues of low self-
esteem, and problems arising out of that.
Facts about Low Self-Esteem

16. A Low Self Esteem
• Makes teens to doubt their
capabilities. You constantly seek
validation and reassurance that you
are doing the right thing.
• Low self-esteem in teens can lead
to depression, anxiety, under
achievement, fear of failure, fear of
happiness, substance abuse and
aggression.

17. • Keeps teens from enjoying life, doing
the things they want to do and from
working towards their goals
A Low Self Esteem

18. Self-Esteem Boosters
 Accept all parts of your
physical appearance now
 Focus on your strengths and
positive qualities
 Listen to your Inner Voice
(The Inner Critic) then stop
any negative thought!

19.  Stop comparing yourself with
others- Apple and Orange
 Spend time with people who
make you feel good about
yourself
Self-Esteem Boosters

20.  Shed perfectionistic demands
(shoulds, oughts, musts)
 Do things that you enjoy and that
make use of your own special
talents and abilities
 Dress in clothes that make you feel
good about yourself.
Self-Esteem Boosters

21.  Learn to be resilient and bounce
back after disappointments and
setbacks
 Keep a sense of humor
 Take responsibility for your life
instead of blaming others
Self-Esteem Boosters

22. Thought Stopping
Ask yourself
 Is this message really true!
 Would a person say this to another
person?. If not, why am I saying this
to myself?
 What do I get out of thinking this
thought?. If it makes me feel bad
about myself, why not stop thinking
it?

23.  Reinforce the positives to
lock it in by repeating it over
and over
 Dig for GOLD not for DIRT!
Thought Stopping

24. Negative Thoughts
• I am not worth anything
• I have never accomplished
anything
• I always make mistakes
• I am a jerk!
• I don’t deserve a good life
• I’m stupid!
• I’m not good enough
• I’m unlovable/ fat and ugly
• I’m good for nothing
• I’m unacceptable/ evil
Positive Thoughts
• I am a valuable person
• I have accomplished many
things
• I do many things well
• I am a great person
• I deserve to be happy and
healthy
• I am smart

25. SELF BELIEF
Personal excellence begins with
vision, is determined by
character, sustained by
preparation and willed by
self-belief

26. SELF BELIEF
• “You must believe you are going to win
even before you start”. Why? Because
what you really believe will happen is
exactly what will happen”.
REMEMBER
If you don’t believe in yourself, no one
else will

27. Activity
• The Teens sit in a circle and one teen
sits in the middle. The rest say one
thing they like about the person each.
The one in the middle only responds
with a “Thank You”.

28. SELF CONFIDENCE
• Self Confidence is believing in yourself,
knowing your worth and recognising that you
have what it takes to succeed/ do well.
• Self confidence is having faith in your ability
to achieve success
• Self Confidence is your resolve to win!

29. SELF CONFIDENCE
• If you have the confidence, but not
the marks, you can still make a
mark. However, if you have the
marks, but no confidence in your
abilities, then the chances of
succeeding are bleaker

30. SELF CONFIDENCE
When you believe in yourself
you take failures as
opportunities to learn, refocus,
readjust and make amends in
order to progress towards your
ultimate goals.

31. Activity
Watch a Video Clip
“VALIDATION”
STOP-n-THINK

32. Silencing the Inner Critic
• An affirmation is a positive, present tense
statement that supports what you are trying to
achieve.
• Changes your whole physiology and makes your
body to be in tune with your affirmation when
you read it.

33. Positive Affirmations
• Every day in every way I'm getting better and
better!
• I am a very special, unique and valuable person
• I deserve to feel good about myself
• I have accomplished many things
• I do many things well
• I am a great person
• I deserve to be happy and healthy
• I am smart
• I am confident, I like and accept myself
• I am motivated and committed to achieve my full
potential.

34. • What barriers are keeping you back:
• What negative thoughts are in the back of you
mind?
• What is that wee small voice in your head (The
Inner Critic) saying:
– “You're not good enough.”
– “You don't have enough talent.”
– “You don't have enough education/training.”
• Don't accept it. Don't listen to it. Forge ahead.
• Turn those negative thoughts into positive
actions generating phenomenal results.
• Surround yourself with positive people