We often think of loving others, but what about ourselves? What does it truly mean to love ourselves?

1. What it means to
Love Yourself
By Koh Kai Xin | 01.04.2017 | Dhamma Sharing

2. Don’t we already
love ourselves
too much?

3. Understanding why we want material objects
Worldly
Cars
Money
Clothings
Material things aren’t bad if they enforce positive reminders
Spiritual
Statues
Robes
Offerings

4. What is the definition of love ?

5. Greed Hatred
(Self-centeredness) (Self-criticism)
“This should be mine!”
“Others are not as good as I am”
“I don’t deserve this”
“‘I’m not good enough”
Both stems from insecurities

6. Hatred
Non-resistance
Greed
Non-becoming
Not to attached to things or push things away

7. The Middle path
HatredGreed
Self-
sufficient
Self-
compassion
Self-
respect

8. Why is self love important?
So we can love others more
We are always here!
“Peace in oneself, peace in the world”

9. “When another person makes you suffer,
it is because he suffers deeply within himself,
and his suffering is spilling over.
He does not need punishment, he needs help.
That’s the message he is sending.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh

10. Being your own best friend
Self-sufficient
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12. How do you define a good friend?
What does he/she do as a good friend?

13. List them down now and refer to it when you’re down, angry etc.
How do you define a good friend?
What does he/she do as a good friend?

14. Monks,
be islands unto yourselves,
be your own refuge, having no other;
let the Dhamma be an island and a refuge to you,
having no other
SN 22.43
Attadiipaa Sutta

15. SN 22.43
Attadiipaa Sutta
–Johnny Appleseed
“Type a quote here.”Those who are islands unto themselves…
should investigate to the very heart of things:
“What’s the source of
lamentation, pain, grief and despair?
How do they arise?”

16. “If you will take care of me, I will take care of you.”
“I will take care of me for you,
if you will take care of you for me.”

17. 2
Accepting you for being you
Self-compassion

18. imposter self-care
Know the difference
authentic self-care
Tension
Unpleasantness
Restlessness
Ease
Pleasant
Fresh
VS
(e.g. with pampering oneself with
superficial activities to fill the void)

19. <Visual of Salt>

21. 3
Taking care of your
own well-being
Self-respect

22. Putting others on the same priority as ourselves
Put others before yourself or put ourselves before others?
<Ajahn Amaro: The “I” making>

23. Look after your:
Body Feelings Perception Mental Formation

25. The Middle path
HatredGreed
Self-
sufficient
Self-
compassion
Self-
respect

26. The greatest gift you can give to yourself
is the freedom from suffering.