Denigrating and de-valuing the target parent
To the child or in the child’s presence/indirectly
Impose lies, and inaccuracies
Selective attention onto minor flaws
Confiding adult only information
First name basis
Sabotaging time the child spends with the target parent
Withholding or destroying gifts and letters from the alienated parent to the child
Interfering with, monitoring or intercepting communications
Interfering with personal time
scheduling competing activities
excessively making contact with the child whilst in the company of the alienated parent
Pretexts, changing pickup drop-off locations and times
Destroying and undermining memories and relationships
Sanctioning the child’s reference to the alienated parent or to referring to photographs or letters
Destroying evidence of previously happy relationships between the child and the alienated parent
Involving the alienated child to spy on or keep secrets from the rejected parent
Involving the alienated child in a loyalty conflict, forcing them to choose between parents
Provoking conflict between the child and the alienated parent
Interrogating child about the time with the alienated parent
Indoctrinating the child about adult issues beyond the age or stage of understanding
Financial, often child-support
Relational, separation and divorce
Manipulating the child to reject the target parent
Making parental love conditional upon rejecting the target parent
Inducing feelings of guilt for having fun with or feeling love toward the rejected parent
The alienating parent portrays themselves as vulnerable
requiring the care and protection of the child
To the exclusion of the target parent
Demoting and devaluing the rejected parent’s role in the child’s life
Withholding crucial information about the child’s life from the rejected parent
Medical, educational
Not inviting the rejected parent to or informing them of significant events in the child’s life
Revising history to minimise and de-value the role of the target parent
Demote the target parent by referring to them by their first name to the child