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HANDSHAKING




Arijit Goswami
ECE-1, UE 105016
Contents
•   A peep into the history
•   The first move
•   How dominance and control are communicated?
•   How to create rapport?
•   How to disarm a power player
•   The hand-on-top technique
•   Gaining the left side advantage
•   Mismatch of hands
•   The double hander
•   The Handshakes of control
•   The world’s worst 8 handshakes
•   Conclusion
A peep into the history

• Shaking hands is a relic of our
  ancient past. Whenever primitive
  tribes met under friendly
  conditions, they would hold their
  arms out with their palms exposed
  to show that no weapons were
  being held or concealed. In Roman
  times, the practice of carrying a
  concealed dagger in the sleeve was
  common so for protection the
  Romans developed the Lower-Arm-
  Grasp as a common greeting.
The first move…

• Although it is a generally accepted custom to shake hands
  when meeting a person for the first time, there are some
  circumstances in which it may not be appropriate for you
  to initiate a handshake. Considering that a handshake is a
  sign of trust and welcome, it is important to ask yourself
  several questions before you initiate the hand shake: Am I
  welcome? Is this person happy to meet me or am I forcing
  them into it?
• Sales-people are taught that if they initiate a handshake
  with a customer on whom they call unannounced or
  uninvited, it can produce a negative result.
How Dominance and Control Are
Communicated?



                  The submissive
                    handshake
 Taking control
                                   Communicating
                                      equality
How to Create Rapport?

There are two key ingredients for creating rapport in
  handshake.

1. First, make sure that yours and the other person's palms are
   in the vertical position so that no one is dominant or
   submissive.
2. Second, apply the same pressure you receive. This means
   that if, on a firmness scale of 1-10, your handshake registers
   a 7 but the other person is only a 5, you'll need to back off
   20% in strength. If their grip is a 9 and yours is a 7, you'll
   need to increase.
How to Disarm a Power Player

• This technique involves
  first stepping forward
  with your left foot as
  you reach to shake
  hands. This takes a
  little practice, as       1. The power player
                             attempts to control
                                                           2. Step forward
  stepping forward on                                      on your left foot

  the right foot is the
  natural position for
  90% of people when
  shaking with the right                           3. Walk across in front
  hand.                                            with your right leg
                                                   and turn his palm up
The Hand-on-Top Technique

• When a power player presents you with a
  Palm-Down Thrust, respond with your
  hand in the Palm-Up position then put
  your left hand over his right to form a
  Double-Hander and straighten the
  handshake.

• This switches the power from him to you
  and is a much simpler way of dealing with
  the situation, and is much easier for
  women to use, if you feel the power player
  is purposefully trying to intimidate.
Gaining the Left Side Advantage

 When two leaders stand side by side
 for media photographs, they try to
 appear equal in physical size and
 dress code but the one who stands to
 the left of the picture is perceived by
 viewers to have a dominant edge
 over the other. This is because it is
 easier to gain the upper hand when
 they shake, making the one to the
 left of the photograph appear to be
 in control.
                                           Gaining the Upper Hand -
                                            JFK using the left-hand
                                             side advantage to put
                                            Richard Nixon into the
                                            weaker-looking position
Mismatch of hands

  If this ever happens to you, intentionally take the
  other person's right hand with your left, place it
  correctly into your right hand and say with a
  smile 'Let's try that again!‘

  This can give you an enormous credibility boost
  with the other person, because it shows you care
  enough about meeting them to get the handshake
  right.
The Double-Hander

This handshake increases the amount of
physical contact given by the initiator and gives
control over the receiver by restricting his right
hand. Sometimes called the 'politician‘s
handshake', the initiator of the Double-Hander
tries to give the impression he is trustworthy
and honest, but when it‘s used on a person he's
just met, it can have the reverse effect leaving
the receiver feeling suspicious about the
initiator‘s intentions.


                                                     Yasser Arafat plants a Double-
                                                     Hander on Tony Blair,
                                                     whose tight-lipped expression
                                                     shows he's not impressed
Handshakes of Control

             The Wrist Hold                  The Elbow Grasp




The Upper-
 Arm Grip                     The Shoulder
                                  Hold
The World's Eight Worst
Handshakes
1.The Wet Fish
Credibility Rating: 1/10.
Few greetings are as uninviting as the Wet
Fish, particularly when the hand is cold or
clammy. The soft, placid feel of the Wet Fish
makes it universally unpopular and most
people associate it with weak character.


 2.The Vice
 Credibility Rating: 4/10.
 This quietly persuasive style is a
 favourite of men in business and
 reveals a desire to dominate and
 assume early control of the
 relationship or put people in their
 place.
The World's Eight Worst
Handshakes
3. The Bone-Crusher
Credibility Rating: 0/10.
The Bone-Crusher is the trademark of the
overly aggressive personality who, without
warning, seizes the early advantage and
attempts to demoralise his opponent by
grinding his knuckles to a smooth paste.


4. The Finger-Tip Grab
Credibility Rating: 2/10.
A common occurrence in male—female
greetings, the Finger-Tip Grab is a
handshake that missed the mark and the
user mistakenly grabs the other person's
fingers.
The World's Eight Worst
Handshakes
5.The Stiff-Arm Thrust
Credibility Rating: 3/10.
Like the Palm-Down Thrust, the Stiff-
Arm Thrust tends to be
used by aggressive types and its main
purpose is to keep you at
a distance and away from their personal
space.
6. The Socket-Wrencher
Credibility Rating: 3/10.
Pulling the receiver into the initiator's
territory can mean; first, the initiator is
an insecure type who feels safe only
within his own personal space; second,
the initiator is from a culture that has
smaller space needs. Either way, he
wants the encounter to be on his terms.
The World's Eight Worst
Handshakes
7.The Pump Handle
Credibility Rating: 4/10.
With strong rural overtones, the
pumper grabs the hand of the
pumpee and commences an
energetic and rhythmic series of
rapid vertical strokes.

8.The Dutch Treat
Credibility Rating: 2/10.
Being somewhat vegetarian in
approach, this handshake has its
origins in the Netherlands, where a
person can be accused of 'Geeft 'n
hand als bosje worteljes' meaning
'Giving a handshake like a bunch of
carrots'.
Conclusion


     Few people have any idea how they
     come across to others in initial
     meetings, despite the fact that most of
     us are aware that the first few minutes
     of that meeting can make or break a
     relationship.
References


•The Definitive Book of BODY LANGUAGE by Allan & Barbara
Pease
Thank you!!

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The Art of Handshaking: A Guide to Communicating Through Handshake Gestures

  • 2. Contents • A peep into the history • The first move • How dominance and control are communicated? • How to create rapport? • How to disarm a power player • The hand-on-top technique • Gaining the left side advantage • Mismatch of hands • The double hander • The Handshakes of control • The world’s worst 8 handshakes • Conclusion
  • 3. A peep into the history • Shaking hands is a relic of our ancient past. Whenever primitive tribes met under friendly conditions, they would hold their arms out with their palms exposed to show that no weapons were being held or concealed. In Roman times, the practice of carrying a concealed dagger in the sleeve was common so for protection the Romans developed the Lower-Arm- Grasp as a common greeting.
  • 4. The first move… • Although it is a generally accepted custom to shake hands when meeting a person for the first time, there are some circumstances in which it may not be appropriate for you to initiate a handshake. Considering that a handshake is a sign of trust and welcome, it is important to ask yourself several questions before you initiate the hand shake: Am I welcome? Is this person happy to meet me or am I forcing them into it? • Sales-people are taught that if they initiate a handshake with a customer on whom they call unannounced or uninvited, it can produce a negative result.
  • 5. How Dominance and Control Are Communicated? The submissive handshake Taking control Communicating equality
  • 6. How to Create Rapport? There are two key ingredients for creating rapport in handshake. 1. First, make sure that yours and the other person's palms are in the vertical position so that no one is dominant or submissive. 2. Second, apply the same pressure you receive. This means that if, on a firmness scale of 1-10, your handshake registers a 7 but the other person is only a 5, you'll need to back off 20% in strength. If their grip is a 9 and yours is a 7, you'll need to increase.
  • 7. How to Disarm a Power Player • This technique involves first stepping forward with your left foot as you reach to shake hands. This takes a little practice, as 1. The power player attempts to control 2. Step forward stepping forward on on your left foot the right foot is the natural position for 90% of people when shaking with the right 3. Walk across in front hand. with your right leg and turn his palm up
  • 8. The Hand-on-Top Technique • When a power player presents you with a Palm-Down Thrust, respond with your hand in the Palm-Up position then put your left hand over his right to form a Double-Hander and straighten the handshake. • This switches the power from him to you and is a much simpler way of dealing with the situation, and is much easier for women to use, if you feel the power player is purposefully trying to intimidate.
  • 9. Gaining the Left Side Advantage When two leaders stand side by side for media photographs, they try to appear equal in physical size and dress code but the one who stands to the left of the picture is perceived by viewers to have a dominant edge over the other. This is because it is easier to gain the upper hand when they shake, making the one to the left of the photograph appear to be in control. Gaining the Upper Hand - JFK using the left-hand side advantage to put Richard Nixon into the weaker-looking position
  • 10. Mismatch of hands If this ever happens to you, intentionally take the other person's right hand with your left, place it correctly into your right hand and say with a smile 'Let's try that again!‘ This can give you an enormous credibility boost with the other person, because it shows you care enough about meeting them to get the handshake right.
  • 11. The Double-Hander This handshake increases the amount of physical contact given by the initiator and gives control over the receiver by restricting his right hand. Sometimes called the 'politician‘s handshake', the initiator of the Double-Hander tries to give the impression he is trustworthy and honest, but when it‘s used on a person he's just met, it can have the reverse effect leaving the receiver feeling suspicious about the initiator‘s intentions. Yasser Arafat plants a Double- Hander on Tony Blair, whose tight-lipped expression shows he's not impressed
  • 12. Handshakes of Control The Wrist Hold The Elbow Grasp The Upper- Arm Grip The Shoulder Hold
  • 13. The World's Eight Worst Handshakes 1.The Wet Fish Credibility Rating: 1/10. Few greetings are as uninviting as the Wet Fish, particularly when the hand is cold or clammy. The soft, placid feel of the Wet Fish makes it universally unpopular and most people associate it with weak character. 2.The Vice Credibility Rating: 4/10. This quietly persuasive style is a favourite of men in business and reveals a desire to dominate and assume early control of the relationship or put people in their place.
  • 14. The World's Eight Worst Handshakes 3. The Bone-Crusher Credibility Rating: 0/10. The Bone-Crusher is the trademark of the overly aggressive personality who, without warning, seizes the early advantage and attempts to demoralise his opponent by grinding his knuckles to a smooth paste. 4. The Finger-Tip Grab Credibility Rating: 2/10. A common occurrence in male—female greetings, the Finger-Tip Grab is a handshake that missed the mark and the user mistakenly grabs the other person's fingers.
  • 15. The World's Eight Worst Handshakes 5.The Stiff-Arm Thrust Credibility Rating: 3/10. Like the Palm-Down Thrust, the Stiff- Arm Thrust tends to be used by aggressive types and its main purpose is to keep you at a distance and away from their personal space. 6. The Socket-Wrencher Credibility Rating: 3/10. Pulling the receiver into the initiator's territory can mean; first, the initiator is an insecure type who feels safe only within his own personal space; second, the initiator is from a culture that has smaller space needs. Either way, he wants the encounter to be on his terms.
  • 16. The World's Eight Worst Handshakes 7.The Pump Handle Credibility Rating: 4/10. With strong rural overtones, the pumper grabs the hand of the pumpee and commences an energetic and rhythmic series of rapid vertical strokes. 8.The Dutch Treat Credibility Rating: 2/10. Being somewhat vegetarian in approach, this handshake has its origins in the Netherlands, where a person can be accused of 'Geeft 'n hand als bosje worteljes' meaning 'Giving a handshake like a bunch of carrots'.
  • 17. Conclusion Few people have any idea how they come across to others in initial meetings, despite the fact that most of us are aware that the first few minutes of that meeting can make or break a relationship.
  • 18. References •The Definitive Book of BODY LANGUAGE by Allan & Barbara Pease