A Dream Releaser is someone who sees the potential in others and inspires them to achieve their dreams. This session discusses how to help kids develop, pursue, and overcome obstacles to their dreams. It emphasizes developing the mindset of a Dream Releaser by looking for the good in others, speaking encouraging words, and creating an atmosphere of unconditional love. Parents are encouraged to help kids identify their dreams, set goals, and take action toward their dreams while also addressing dream killers like disappointment, disillusionment and discouragement.
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Heart to heart connection session 6
1. SESSION 6-BEING A DREAM
RELEASER
Making a Heart to Heart Connection WithYour Kid
2. Being a Dream Releaser
Summary of Prior Sessions
The Uniqueness of Everyone
What’s a Dream?
Portrait of a Dream Releaser
HelpingYour Kids to Dream
Putting Legs to the Dream
Dream Killers
Releasing the Dream Releasers
3. Summary of Prior Sessions
Mission Statement- Developed a parenting
mission statement with the following keys:
Love/Relationship First
Freedom
Moving from external control to self-c0ntrol
Moving from total dependence to independence
Choices
4. Summary of Prior Sessions
Strategy Development
Shifting from the Disrespect Factory to the Honor
Factory
5. Summary of Prior Sessions
Strategy Development
Create a space where your kid is loved & accepted
Love Languages
Speak to their identity & life purpose
Use your strengths & call out your kid’s strengths
Coaching Skills
Listen
Ask
Act
Support
6. The Uniqueness of Everyone
Mind
Spirit
Body
•PhysicalCharacteristics
•Life Experiences
•Personality
•IntelligenceQuotient
•Emotional Quotient
•Love Language
•Strengths/Talents
•Dreams
•Passions
7. What’s a Dream?
Dreams are seeds of possibility planted in
your spirit calling you to pursue a unique path
to the realization of your purpose.-John
Maxwell, PutYour Dream to theTest
A dream is a picture of the future you want to
live in.
Dreams are carriers of hope & are not bound
by time or circumstances.
9. Portrait of a Dream
Releaser?
A Dream Releaser is
someone who sees
the unique
masterpiece you were
created to be and
calls it out & inspires
you to become that
masterpiece,
regardless of your
current state.
10. Examples of Dream
Releasers
Regis McKenna
AOL
Apple
Compaq
Intel
Microsoft
Mahatma Gandi
• Martin Luther King
• Nelson Mandela
• John Lennon
11. Portrait of a Dream
Releaser
The Eyes of a Dream Releaser
Beliefs & Perspectives
The Mouth of a Dream Releaser
Emotions &Words
The Heart of a Dream Releaser
Creating a culture of love & honor
13. The Eyes of a Dream
Releaser
Looking for the Masterpiece or the Mud?
Do I restore value or mentally devalue people?
What’s the mental framework you put people in?
Do I hold in my mind’s eye the picture of a person’s
true worth or do I mentally subtract value based on my
judgment about their relative muddiness?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate
yourself?
I always look for the good, the beauty in others.
I refrain from judging other’s & take time to see things
from their perspective.
What do you see when you look at your kids?
15. The Mouth of a Dream
Releaser
Death and life are in the power of the tongue.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate
yourself?
I am known as an encourager.
I am expressive with words of love and
appreciation for others.
16. Imagine your kid…
…has a sign hanging around their neck that reads,
“Please help me to feel valuable today.”
Now speak!
17. Three levels of Affirmation
Affirm something your kid did.
Believe something your kid could do.
This speaks to their destiny/life purpose.
Call out what could be
Validate who they are
This speaks to their identity
Call out who they are
The Mouth of a Dream
Releaser
19. The Heart of a Dream
Releaser
Perfect love casts out fear!
When people feel unconditionally loved, it creates the
space for people to dream, to uncover hidden potential.
It produces an atmosphere in which dreams can be
released.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate yourself?
Your ability to build an atmosphere of love.
I enjoy seeing people succeed. I do not use them to fulfill my
goals.
Love Languages
Use yours, but speak your kid’s Love Language.
Coaching
Influence versus Control
20. Helping Your Kids to Dream
Start a Dream List
Things to Be
Things to Do
Things to Have
100 Dreams Exercise-Nothing is impossible!
RecordYour Dreams
Dream Board
Dream Journal
Computer
Dream Poster
Dream Box
21. Putting Legs to the Dream
Where to begin?
Turn your dream into a goal.
Explore the goal
Develop options-what could you do?
Chose your best option
Own it
Act on it
22. Where to Begin?
Which dream do you feel motivated to do
something about now?
What dream makes you feel alive when you
think about it?
Which dream would be easy to act on right
now?
Which dream are you the most afraid of?
23. Turn Your Dream Into a
Goal
A dream is unlimited, a goal clearly defines
what you want to achieve by a certain time or
date.
Successive goals may be needed.
SMART format
Specific-clearly state where you’re going
Measureable-measure progress
Attainable-within your capabilities
Relevant-it’s a priority
Time specific-it has a target completion date.
24. Explore the Goal
What’s the background leading up to this goal?
Where do you see this going? What will that look
like?
What’s going on inside you when you consider
this?
What are the most important factors/people in
the situation?
What’s most important for you?
How would your life be different?
25. Develop Options
Push beyond initial & obvious ideas to uncover
new & outside the box options
What could you do to move yourself toward your
goal?
If you imagined yourself in someone else’s shoes,
what options might they come up with?
Shoot for at least 5 different options
What obstacles might keep you from reaching
your goal? How could you remove them?
26. Choose an Option
Which option will you pursue to move
towards your goal?
Which options do you want to pursue?
Which option moves you the most effectively
toward your goal?
What are the advantages & disadvantages of each
option?
Which is the best for you?
27. Own It!
How ready are you to commit energy, time &
resources to pursue this dream?
If no one else joins or supports you, will you
still pursue it?
How important is this dream to you?
How responsible do you feel to bring this
dream to pass?
Is this really your dream or is it someone
else’s expectation of you?
28. Act On It!
Turn the option you’ve chosen into concrete
steps.
Turn it into an action statement.
What exactly will you do?
By when? Is that a realistic timetable?
What will you commit to doing?
No could, should or might
Are there any other obstacles we need to address
before you move forward?
29. Dream Killers & Overcoming
Them
Disappointment
Disillusionment
Discouragement
Unbelief
The Cost
30. Dream Killers
Recognize their current reality &
circumstances.
Shattered Dreams
”I had a dream my life would be
So much different from this hell I'm living
So different now from what it seemed
Now life has killed the dream I dreamed.”
I Dreamed a Dream, Les Miserables
31. Dream Killers
Disappointment-Missed Expectations-We focus on
how things should have been & get knocked off course.
Overcoming Disappointment
Re-AppointYour kid
Call out their unique identity
Call out their unique life purpose that no one else can
fulfill
Victorious Mindset
Hope-Believing that good things are coming.
“If this doesn’t work out, something better is coming!”
32. Dream Killers
Disillusionment-We lose sight of our dream
because of the challenges that confront us.
Overcoming Disillusionment
Restore hope by illuminating. Bring light &
perspective.
Share your failures & successes that came through
perseverance.
Victorious Mindset
Passionately confront the problem. Do not run
away from it!
33. Dream Killers
Discouragement-The loss of courage to pursue
the dream when we don’t see solutions to
problems.
Overcoming Discouragement
Encourage-give or lend your courage to another.
How can you encourage yourself?
Victorious Mindset
Everything that happens is preparing me to become
the person I was created to be.
I am being prepared for great things in the day ahead.
34. Dream Killers
Unbelief-A lack or absence of faith.
If the dream seems to big or difficult our excuses
abound & underachievement begins.
Overcoming unbelief
Give them your authentic belief in them
Who they are-their identity
In their strengths & abilities
Victorious Mindset
My past does not have to determine my future.
We do not go forward by looking backward.
35. Dream Killers
Abraham Lincoln
1833 Failed in business
1835 Sweet heart dies
1836 Nervous breakdown
1838 Defeated for Illinois House Speaker
1843 Defeated nomination for Congress
1846 Elected to Congress
1848 Lost re-nomination
1849 Rejected as Land Officer
1854 Defeated for U.S. Senate
1856 Defeated for nomination as U.S.Vice President
1858 Defeated again for U.S. Senate
1860 Elected U.S. President
Victorious Mindset
What do you believe about yourself, are you powerful or
powerless? Are you a victor or a victim?
36. Releasing the Dream
Releasers
How do we raise our kids to be who they
are and live out their life purpose in
community?
Creating a Culture of Honor built on
Love to create a Safe Place where all can be
vulnerable, known and accepted.
Sharing Power by offering Choices so that we learn
to be Self-Controlled individuals.
Each of our kids are unique & have a divine life
purpose wired into them.
37. Releasing the Dream
Releasers
The world is crying out for Dream
Releasers.
Will you develop the eyes to see what others can not?
Will you develop the heart to love unconditionally?
Will you speak words of life?
Will you be a Dream Releaser?
38. Feedback!
How would you rate relevance of what you
have learned? (1 not relevant, 5 very relevant)
Do you feel you have gained any tools that
can help you parent (1 none, 5 a few)
Do you have any input on the timing of the
class? (1 too long in between, 5 timing was
great)
One light bulb moment?
What would you change?