Happy life, Happy Family<br />CONCEPT OF A FAMILY<br />
Family is defined as a group of people related by blood, marriage, or adoption living together. <br />Remember:<br />-We are not defining families by how many, and what kind of people they have<br />-We define them by what they do<br />
Definitions<br />spouse<br />an adult family-partner (intimate friendship)<br />when married, is called a husband or wife, when not married…<br />common-law partner<br />an adult family-partner (intimate friendship), you are not married to<br />
What do families do?<br />Families naturally do one or more or all of these actions / functions<br />Functions of the Family<br />physical care and health maintenance of all members<br />get more members by birth or adoption (or… )<br />prepare children for adulthood in society (socialization)<br />control and accountability for children<br />provide food, shelter, safety<br />by working, earning money, and spending it to meet these needs<br />provide love<br />
Different Types of Families<br />Family Form<br />the number of adults, the type of relationship that the adults have, and then number of children make up the family form<br />Nuclear Family<br />two parents, one or more kids<br />
DYAD FAMILY<br />Consists of two people living together, usually a woman and a man, without children. Ex. Newly married couples, Live-in couples.<br />COHABITATION FAMILY<br />Are composed of heterosexual couples, and perhaps children, who live together but remained unmarried.<br />
Types of Families<br />Breadwinner Family<br />two parents, one works, one stays at home<br />Dual-income Family<br />two parents, both work<br />Blended Family<br />In a blended, or a remarriage, or reconstituted family, a divorced or widowed person with children marries someone who also has children.<br />
EXTENDED FAMILY<br />(multigenerational family)<br />An extended family includes not only the nuclear family but also other family members such as grandmothers, grandfathers, aunts, uncles, cousin and grandchildren.<br />POLYGAMOUS FAMILY<br />A marriage with multiple wives.<br />
Lone-parent or Single-parent Family<br />a family with one adult and one ore more kids<br />can be made by:<br /><ul><li>always having only one parent
starting with two parents, then separating, divorcing
the death of one parent</li></li></ul><li>COMMUNAL FAMILY<br />Communes are formed by groups of people who choose to live together as an extended family. Their relationship to each other is motivated by social or religious values rather than kinship.<br />Same-sex Families<br />parents / adults are either both women or both men<br />sometimes kids, sometimes no kids<br />
Immediate Family<br />mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters<br />the closest members (live with them normally)<br />Adoptive Families<br />one or more children<br />child is NOT blood relative to either parent<br />Foster Families<br />temporary families<br />adults care for children who cannot live with their own parents (many reasons why)<br />
Family Life cycles<br />Stage 1: marriage<br /><ul><li>Establish a mutual satisfying relationship
Learn to relate well to their families of orientation
Engage in reproductive life planning.</li></li></ul><li>Stage 2: the early child bearing family<br /><ul><li>Health and child care and integrate a new member in a family.
Difficulty for new parents.</li></li></ul><li>Stage 3: family with a preschool child<br /><ul><li>Busy family because children at this age demand a great deal of time.
Children are prone to sickness and accidents.</li></li></ul><li>Stage 4: family with school age child<br /><ul><li>Important responsibility of preparing their children to function in a complex world at the same time maintaining their own satisfying marriage.</li></li></ul><li>Stage 5: family with an adolescent<br /><ul><li>Must loosen the family ties to allow more freedom to prepare for their own.</li></ul>Stage 6: the launching stage family: the family with young adult.<br /><ul><li>Children leave to establish their own household is the most difficult stage because it appears to represent the breaking up of the family</li></li></ul><li>Stage 7: the family of middle years<br /><ul><li>Returns to a two-partner unit.
An opportunity to travel, time to spend on hobbies</li></li></ul><li>Stage 8: the family in retirement or older age.<br /><ul><li>Can offer great deal of support and advise to young adults.
Tendency to pamper their grand children.</li></li></ul><li>Lets try this....<br />Identify what type of family?<br />
A farmer who had a quarrelsome family called his sons and told them to lay a bunch of sticks before him. Then, after laying the sticks parallel to one another and binding them, he challenged his sons, one after one, to pick up the bundle and break it. They all tried, but in vain. Then, untying the bundle, he gave them the sticks to break one by one. This they did with the greatest ease. Then said the father, Thus, my sons, as long as you remain united, you are a match for anything, but differ and separate, and you are undone.<br />
F A M I L Y STORY<br />I ran into a stranger as he passed by,<br />"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.<br />He said, "Please excuse me too;<br />I wasn't watching for you."<br />
We were very polite, this stranger and I.<br />We went on our way and we said goodbye.<br />But at home a different story is told,<br />How we treat our loved ones, young and old.<br />
Later that day, cooking the evening<br />meal,<br />My son stood beside me very still.<br />When I turned, I nearly knocked him<br />down.<br />"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.<br />
He walked away, his little heart broken.<br />I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.<br />While I lay awake in bed,<br />God's still small voice came to me and said,<br />
"While dealing with a stranger,<br />common courtesy you use,<br />but the family you love, you seem to<br />abuse.<br />
Go and look on the kitchen floor,<br />You'll find some flowers there by the door.<br />
Those are the flowers he brought for<br />you.<br />He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.<br />He stood very quietly not to spoil the<br />surprise,<br />you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."<br />
By this time, I felt very small,<br />And now my tears began to fall.<br />I quietly went and knelt by his bed;<br />"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said<br />
"Are these the flowers you picked for<br />me?"<br />He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.<br />
I picked 'em because they're pretty like<br />you.<br />I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."<br />I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I<br />acted today;<br />I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."<br />He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay.<br />I love you anyway."<br />
I said, "Son, I love you too,<br />and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."<br />FAMILY<br />Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company<br />that we are working for could easily replace us in<br />a matter of days.<br />But the family we left behind will feel the loss<br />for the rest of their lives.<br />
And come to think of it, we pour<br />ourselves more<br />into work than into our own family,<br />an unwise investment indeed,<br />don't you think?<br />So what is behind the story?<br />
Do you know what the word FAMILY<br />means?<br />FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU<br />