Why make a life career out of your fears. Fear is a great thing! Practical fears that is like when crossing the street. Responsible fears are common sense. Fear is a mind killer when it’s not necessary. Always let fears be common sense or that which motivates you to do good.

1. Fear Cripples Love
January 19, 2022
Why make a life career out of your fears. Fear is a great thing!
Practical fears that is like when crossing the street. Responsible
fears are common sense. Fear is a mind killer when it’s not
necessary. Always let fears be common sense or that which motivates you to do good.
I have a fear of heights. So to get over it while in NYC, I rented a one bedroom with a balcony
on the 40th
fl
oor (of course, it was mostly because I wanted it). Occasionally I would lean
against the rail to no avail to see if I conquered the fear. Also, any times I went to the top
fl
oor
of the World Trade Center, again to no avail. Some things are not easy to ‘level out with’, but
keep trying. I was on the shy side socially (internally I have no fears of closeness). To get over
it, I gave many parties in my 20’s and 30’s and also was a Corporate salesman, and had to call
or meet top executives frequently. It worked! 28 years I continue doing public free speech
displays. The shyness disappeared long ago. However, with a group or even one person where
I’m not ‘in charge’, I continue to have an introverted side. The key is to stay centered and calm
and with acceptance of how you feel.
Years ago, in Venice Beach, I hosted a ‘
fi
re walk’, which is a barefoot walk over
hot coals in bare feet. The instructor was a large guy
named Bear, who was an ex Marine who served 3
years in Vietnam with lots of combat experience.
After the ‘
fi
re walk’ he gave a talk and admitted he
had one fear he was not able to concur. The fear of
intimacy.
Real love expresses itself best when all blocks
disappear. It’s a choice. Most of us experience
ourselves as bodies and consider physical attraction
and physical attachment as an expression of love.
However the deepest love is spiritual and happens
when two souls are able to walk in and through each others lives with total freedom. My
experience is that there needs to be no barriers, no expectation, no desire for each other…at
all…ever. There is complete transparency and each one is so strong within themselves that no
matter what the other may say or do they can never be hurt. Once again this high spiritual
destination is not easy to see, let alone reach, simply because our attention and energy has
become almost constantly attached ‘down here’ in the physical. The mind is a barrier to all
deep love… the mind is just a tool like a computer. Above the mind is another dimension
waiting for your soul to be open to it. Let go of ‘fear of intimacy’ especially!
Arhata~