Session for Maret School Families. Identity, Identity Development, School, Affinity Groups, and Conversations at Home in support of positive identity development.
3. Agenda
Positive Identity
How Schools Can Support
How Families Can Support
Conversations and Questions
Resources
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The Jones Model of Cultural Competence
Cultural Self-
Awareness
Cultural
Intelligence
Cross-Cultural
Effectiveness
Skills
Countering
Oppression
through
Inclusion
6. Identity Frames
Reduced Intractability
Co-Authorship of Identity
Identity Socialization
Identity and Belonging
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7. Parallel
Regressive
Crossed
Progressive
Symbiotic*
R.T. Carter’s Model
Identity and
Social Interactions
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* Not in Carter’s Model
10. Do You See Me?
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- Representation on the
Walls
- Representation in the
Curriculum
- Interest in Personal
Story (Sharing of
Personal Story)
- Interactions In and Out
of the Classroom
- Demonstration of Care
11. Do You Hear Me?
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- Incorporation of Prior
Knowledge and Experience
- Seeking and Responding
to Student Feedback
- Student Choice in the
Curriculum
- Empathy Reflex
- Authoritative Discipline
12. Will You Treat Me Fairly?
- Clear and High
Expectations
- Equal Discipline and
Rewards
- Support in Struggle and
Push in Success
- Consistent and
Predictable Assessment
- Different Kinds of
Success
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13. - Understanding of
Identity and Experience
- Interruption of Exclusive
or Oppressive Behavior
- Teaching and
Discussing Cultural and
Power Difference
- Encouragement of and
Practice with
Collaboration
Will You Protect Me?
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15. Basic Definitions
The term affinity group is used as a
bringing together of people who have an
identifier in common, e.g. race, gender,
religion, family status, etc. Affinity groups
are for individuals who identify as members
of the group and can speak to the
experience of being a member of the group
from the “I” perspective.
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16. Basic Definitions
The term alliance group is used as a
bringing together of people who have a
common commitment to an identifier group,
e.g. race, gender, religion, family status,
etc. Alliance groups are for individuals who
identify as members of the group and/or as
people who support and stand in solidarity
with that group.
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17. Basic Definitions
The term interest group is used as a
bringing together of people who want to
learn about, share, and engage in a special
interest, e.g. hobby, skill, topic, etc.
Interest groups are for individuals who want
to gather to teach, learn, and share.
Membership can be fluid and changing.
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18. Why Affinity Groups Are Great
Safety and Comfort to be
Authentic
Affirmation
Critical Mass
Identity Socialization
Building Resilience
Preparing to Engage
Deeply with Other Groups
Empowerment Toward
Action
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19. Process Break
• What is new, interesting,
or thought provoking?
• What are ways your child
feels supported in their
identities at school, and
what ways would you want
that support to improve?
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21. Early Awareness of Difference
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Age Signs
6 months Can discern racial feature differences
3 years Awareness of own and others’ gender.
Beginning awareness of gender roles
5 years Desire to categorize – self, others
Curiosity about meaning of differences
Aware of biases
7 years Can regulate biases versus behaviors
Starting to parrot adult messages
3rd grade Are aware of societal stereotypes
cross group play can increase
5th grade Have internalized stereotypical messages
cross group play can decrease
22. When They’re Little
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Theme: Trying to Understand the World
Curiosity based questions about difference
“Blurting out” of current understanding
Find out what they’re actually saying/asking
Find out why they’re saying/asking
Answer their questions straightforwardly
Model and coach humility, delight, and
curiosity about difference
Be mindful of children’s media – it’s not
always good for kids
23. In the Middle Years
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Theme: Who Am I? How Do I Have Power?
“Friendship Extinction Event”
Identity search through grouping
Good and bad cliques
Open their horizons about identity
Be steady through their rollercoaster
Coach more, teach less
24. In the Later Years
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Theme: My Future Place in the World
Gender and sexuality stereotypes
Power play through social status
Engagement in social media
The role of inclusivity in their college,
professional, and personal lives
Charging them to “practice for the real thing”
Define values and boundaries, then accept
that they will push
Be their consultant
25. Process Break
• What is new, interesting,
or thought provoking?
• What questions or
concerns do you have
about supporting your
child’s identity journey?
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26. Talking With Your Kids
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Be explicit about your values
Be open about your own
struggles
Don’t stay silent
100 1-Minute Conversations
Relationship Based
Interruption
28. Presenter Information
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Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Outreach Specialist
Seattle Girls’ School
1700 24th Ave S
Seattle, WA 98144
(206) 451-5233
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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